If you are a guy, guess you would had realised thru NS that
respect had to be earned. As a soldier, we had to respect the rank
that the person is wearing. Whether we respect the person anot, is
a separate issue.
I had a almost similar situation at home. Some of the differences
are, we are from a less well off family and there is third party
involved. Or should I say, afew 3rd parties involved.
Home was a 3 room flat. Since young, Y chorosome contributor had a
hot temper and demended respect from us. Whenever he was home from
work and we were busy with homework and did not greet him, he would
ask why did not greet him and demanded it. Crazy asshole. And he
did not stay long in any job.
When my elder sis finished her O levels many many yrs back, she did
well enough to qualify for engineering course in the poly. But she
was stopped from doing the engineering course. Reason, Y chorosome
contributor said he cannot afford to support my sis in poly, and me
in sec, and my younger bro in pri sch. When my mum said she could
find work to help pay for the tuition fees and my sis she said she
will so some Part time job too, he yelled NO. He did not allow my
mum to work. As a result, my sis cannot further her studies.
As I grew up. I was like disgusted by his MCP ways. If a man do not
wish to let his wife work, then he better be earning more $$ to
give her and the family a good life. But this is not in my case.
Mum was not allowed to work, and family was not well off. And
whenever mum spent abit more time with her parents side , Y would
be yelling at her after it. I felt that my mum was like a caged cow
owned by a poor farmer. No freedom, yet have to work like a cow at
home. Whenever Y return home, dinner must be served on the table,
everything laid on the table for him. After dinner, he just leave
everything on the table and went to sleep or went out.
I started working PT at NTUC while I was doing the 3 mths course in
the JC. All the way thru JC, I was working too. I paid for my own
uniforms and lecture notes, books etc. And during the JC1 holidays,
I was working as a waiter in a hotel. And Y demanded that I have
over all the money that I had earned to my mum, for her to " safe
keep " the money for me.But I know once I handed over the $$, it
will be the last that I will ever see my $$ cos Y will surely use
up my $$. I refused to hand over my hard earned $$, and Y said ;"
IF you dun hand over the money, then you better STOP wroking !!
"
I was like 
. Hey I'm not asking
for money or what. As a JC student I'm earning my own pocket money
for my own use. Why should I be giving up my money. Since young,
all our ang pao $$ would be given to mum for " safe keeping " . But
end up being spent by Y.
