Chance has come

twenty47 SG

The girl I like has just broken up with her boyfriend for almost a month. Do you guys think that 1 month is enough to get over a r/s? Cause' i am afraid that she might not be ready to accept me.

Also, in what way can I tell her my feelings? Ask her out for movies? Tell her over phone? Can you guys help me please, I'm a little dumb is this area.

the Bear SG

why don't you be her friend for now?

twenty47 SG

i am already her friend

Deportivo SG

just be there for her.

Imperfect SG

Jus try to get closer to her as a friend, stop thinking abt getting her as a gf for now. She wont be ready so soon. Since u alr know her, its not so difficult to get to know her better and be there for her. Jus try not to have the idea of making her ur gf in ur mind all the while, u may end up doing things that scare her away. Good luck.

hisoka SG

i think you should have made advance earlier when she has just broken i heard its easier at that type of time. but of course i think not to confess to her but to go and accompany her very often ask her out etc.

margarita SG

he sounded so excited n happy tat she has broken up ..

browniebaobao SG

Juz be there for her, care for her..through this period in her life? Action speaks louder than words ya. Dun think it's the right time to confess now..juz be frens and hopefully when she's ready to get into another r/s, she will consider u. Wink

_Aaron_ SG

I don't think it's right to confess, not so soon anyway.

As what the other forumites have said, be there for her.
Go through with her this bad patch of her life, and she may treat you as someone closer.

There comes a time when asking her out for movies 1-on-1 and dinner is so normal and so enjoyable, then when you hold her hand, it may be just so natural...

Of course, it may not happen that way, but still, i think that's best.

Good luck.~

twenty47 SG

Hmmm i did ask her if she had gotten over it and she told me she had… argg… confused. Anyway i am writing a song for her to tell her how i feel. You guys think its a good idea?

Xcert SG

let her know ur intentions but give her the space to sort out her own feelings.

eyonx SG

That would be stupid. It accomplishes nothing.
You can't make someone love you just by virtue of your loving them.

When one has intense feelings, one seems to always want to know in advance how the other will react; you want to possess some grand psychic channel that will tell you what you should do, what she will think.

This is probably evidence enough that you should walk away from this whole affair and never look back.

Failing that you take this advice, simply ask her out and see how it goes. Go somewhere neutral. Have fun. Keep your cool. Keep that feeling inside. There will be plenty of chances for confessions later. Do keep in mind that it takes weeks even months sometimes even years for people to grow closer.

..... chances are you couldnt do that with the appropriate attitude, and most probably try to rush things.

parn SG

You can ask her out anytime (not graveyards hours okie?) as a friend. If she's willing to go out with you for a valid reason, then let things happen naturally from there on. No need to be really savy and impress her intentionally...well...no need to do so until you're 100% sure that she's comfortable being with you when you're out with her. If you're sure that she's comfortable being with you after more than once or twice outings, perhaps you can tell her that you really enjoyed your time with her and would like to 'better' friends with her. The moment to tell her this can only be after you have attracted her to your attention. How to attract her to your attention...well...you could discussed something of an importance with her...and it better concerns her or else you're probably not the one for her cos she didn't tell you nuts about anything happening around her. Catch her attention and afterwards there will be a common weird silence after the conclusion has been reached or agreed...that's probably the good time for you to tell her that you've enjoyed her accompany and would like to be 'better' friends.

Well...try it out at your own risk. I can say success rate is only 1% or 0.0000000001% after deducting all the rest of the girls who are not interested or attracted to you. So don't come to here and KPKB if it doesn't works out for you.

Good luck. Smile

Patrik SG

Yeah..But dun wait too long...I waited too long and now she is happily attached.
Smile

Imperfect SG

Sometimes pple thot that they have gotten over the past, but to only find out later that they havent...

She may think that u are asking her that out of a friend, and not to make u worry she says yes...

Diane Warwick SG

She might not be ready so soon

Devil1976 SG

Did you said you're dumb?

So how she reacts to you normally?

Matthew Lim Li Hao SG

strike when it is hot