I'm always puzzled by the youngsters nowadays. If you don't know
someone well enough, how do you fall in love with him/her ? And not
even had a 2nd date ? How old are you and your buddy..? Love at 1st
sight ? How much you know about love to decide that its love at 1st
sight ?
Lasting relationships are usually built on strong understanding of
each other. Either before being in a relationship or during a
relationship. Of course, sometimes, there are things that will
never happen if you don'y even try. But the golden rule that works
for me is, Never do things that you will regret doing. And Do
things that you will not regret not doing . What are the things to
regret or not regret doing, is up to individual.
Once read this article in Sunday Times many yrs backabout
relationship. For a lasting relationship, Understanding of the
other party should come 1st. With the understanding of the person
you love, Commitment will come naturally. When you are committed to
another person, you will be willing to sacrifice ( NOT your body by
having sex !! ) things like time ( spending more time with love one
), missing that football match final in order to accompany the GF
for her appointment with the doctor, etc. After all these in
place.. then will physical intimacy take place... And sex should
only be the last. I thought about it. It makes sense to me at
least
But now, we are seeing more youngster, jumping straight to Pt no.5.
And majority of them are doing so just bcos the BF ask them
to.
Remember you are what you decide you want to be. A person who is
aware of the situation that one is in.. or someone being made used
of by another person to satisfy sexual desires.
It ok to talk about physical intimacy stuff. But only if the other
party/parties are close friends or friends that you had know long/
well enough. But if the person is someone that you don't well well,
someone only been to a date, doesn't that sound off the alarm that
such a person is interested in such stuff only?
A real gentleman will not discuss such stuff with friends that he
do not know well. Let alone a guy interested in a gal. If a guy is
really interested in a gal for what she is, like her character etc
and not bcos of her big boobs or physical appearance, he will
definitely NOT discuss such intimate stuff with her, for the fear
of scaring her off. Like what someone had advised , you can choose
to lose your virginity anytime you want to. But you cannot choose
to be a virgin once you lost it.
Physical intimacy or sex is a wonderful moment with the person you
are in love with, someone who deserve it. Someone is right when
he/she pointed out that some men give love in order to get sex.some
women give sex in order to get love. These type of man are jerks
and deserved to burn in hell. These type of woman are , well sorry
to offend them , outright stupid . Bcos once sex is given out, they
will not see love. Of course, when gals are of higher sex drive and
out to have fun, thats they own choices.
Remember you are what you decide you want to be
