Hi,
I have a prob that has been bothering me since last night. Needs
advice.
My fiance and I are planning to ROM this year. We have been
together for almost 2 years now.
He used to be in a relationship with this fren of mine, which I saw
named her as Elle.
Barely 2 months into the relationship, Elle broke up with him. Not
long after, my fiance and I committed into a new relationship. It
was full of ups and downs, problem mainly lies in my shortcomings.
In the beginning of this year, everything went on smoothly for us
for I've compromised and learnt to correct my shortcomings and so
did my fiance.
Last 2 weeks ago, we decided to ROM as we feel that time is right
and we have learnt to accomodate and love each other for what and
who we are.
Last night, I went out for dinner with Elle and shared with her
this piece of news. She looked surprised and shared with me that in
Feb, my fiance had met her for lunch (which I was aware of) and was
sharing with her about us being not compatible in some ways and he
wasn't sure if we were able to work out.
I was quite disturbed with what was shared with me. However, there
was a turning point in my relationship with my fiance in March when
he was in India for business trip. The short duration made us
realise how important our presence means to each other. Things
change very much for the better since then and he popped the BIG
question 2 weeks ago.
Elle told me not to think too much and perhaps things really work
out now and thus whatever was shared with her would very much be
invalid but somehow, I have a problem in convincing myself.
What're your opinions then? All I know is that my fiance and I are
able to get along very well and we're very much in sync but is such
fact enough? My heart and intuition tell me that he's the one but
why am I still bothered with what was shared with me last
night?
