A, B, C & G

last SG · 2005-05-17T15:13:16+00:00

A can ask G out for lunch or movie together. then talk about go walk walk together and talk. A can talk about: G's exams (how's your exams coming?) G's scho...

Big Bot SG

A:

A knows G for a long time already. A also likes G for a long time already. G also notices A likes her for sometime already and also has a slight crush on A. A is very low profiled and nobody knows he likes G, except for G which may have noticed it. A is rather generous with his money.

B:

Then comes along B.

B is a long time friend of A since Primary School.

B is unsure whether he likes G but his classmates always encourages him to go after G. B & G make an eligible pair. Both are smart and physically fit unlike A who is a complete Klutz but G has no feelings for B.

A, B and G are in the Secondary School but they have graduate and now B & G are in the same school and A is in a different school.

C:

Then C comes along.

C is in the same school as B and G currently.

C is a new challenger. He is handsome, smart and physically fit and also rich. He doesn't know G for a very long time but he is very enthuiastic in chasing G, G doesn't know whether to accept him a not.

Back to A:

A still likes G a lot.

And now its an open secret that A likes G. But A is the super shy kind of character. He indirectly but made it very clear that he likes G.

G does gives some hints now and then to A. A feels that G wants A to take more initiative in chasing her.

A doesn't know what to do because A is having his holiday and G is having her exams, they haven't met for 4 months and been communicationg on SMS. And also A and G have basically nothing to talk about.

Back to B:

B is very active and now comes Z, Z likes B.

B doesn't noe whether he wants to accept Z.

Anyway, most importantly... what should A do? Rolling Eyes

Kenneth Tan Jian Wei SG

Ask G out for a movie, and carry on from there. Don't think G will reject A.

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Big Bot SG

Oh ya... one more thing...

Initially when A just told G he liked her... and asked her out... G didn't reply.

And also G seldom SMSes A but only replies his SMSes with tiny hints...

And also wat do u think B should do?

Kenneth Tan Jian Wei SG

What "hints" did G drop to A in the first place?

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BrUtUs SG

well A should be direct, G should get A's fren to hint him to make a move.
B should jz continue with his life and continue to noe Z more b4 commiting... C should be gay... Cool

Big Bot SG

Erm... wun 4get u, miss u... but not directly in his face but in friendly message form... Rolling Eyes

Kenneth Tan Jian Wei SG

Are those phrases used exclusively for A, or does G say that to every other guy? There is a possibility of misreading friendly gestures as hints. Still, not all is lost. Be more aggressive (I'm assuming you are A).

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Big Bot SG

I am supposed to know that? Rolling Eyes But G is the super friendly type that greets everyone she sees but A... she kinda gives those weird eyes to A... and is more friendly to A compaared to other girls... but A is the type that avoids girls...cos he is shy and G doesn't have many chances with him... Most important A heard a friend say to another friend that G said that A was cute. Rolling Eyes

Big Bot SG

And B seems to be pretty good friends with G, talking happily together.

And C is just those tag along..please love me.. type... Rolling Eyes

Ferret SG

I am confused already. Why dont you use fictional names instead of Letters ???

Anyway, it's no good to wait, whatever the results. A should show more interest in G if he's serious. And Z shouldn't be in the story if it's about A. If you are A and thinking Z is a "helpful" distraction for B, rethink. Other people's decisions shouldnt affect you Mr. Green

Once again, I really detest Letters.

Kenneth Tan Jian Wei SG

Weird eyes? Weird in a dreamy-gaze way or "why-are-you-staring-at-me" sense?

Embarassed

A has to open up more towards G if he is interested. No one can help him do that except for himself.

Kenneth Tan Jian Wei SG

Double post lah. Cannot is it?

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Big Bot SG

You-have-something-to-say?

Tuatau SG

At first glance one'd have mistaken this as an algebra question. Let us simplify the scenario and see if I got it right:

Guy A likes girl G since they were in secondary school. G seemed to like A too, but self-professed klutz A was too shy to make any move towards G. G is now in junior college while A is waiting to enter polytechnic or to do some other things. A is drifting apart from G. To make matters worse, he is facing some competition from B and C. Question: What is A going to do?

Simple. Quoting from another poster in this forum: Act now or lose her. In spite of a bad feeling that the battle may have already been lost, I'd nevertheless advise A to give it a shot and express to G his feelings as soon as possible. That is, unless he wishes to be her silently-suffering "best guy friend" of course.

Kenneth Tan Jian Wei SG

Originally posted by Tuatau:
At first glance one'd have mistaken this as an algebra question. Let us simplify the scenario and see if I got it right:

Guy A likes girl G since they were in secondary school. G seemed to like A too, but self-professed klutz A was too shy to make any move towards G. G is now in junior college while A is waiting to enter polytechnic or to do some other things. A is drifting apart from G. To make matters worse, he is facing some competition from B and C. Question: What is A going to do?

Simple. Quoting from another poster in this forum: [b]Act now or lose her. In spite of a bad feeling that the battle may have already been lost, I'd nevertheless advise A to give it a shot and express to G his feelings as soon as possible. That is, unless he wishes to be her silently-suffering "best guy friend" of course.[/b]

You da man!

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Big Bot SG

The thing is A knows exactly wat to do... but A has nothing and dun noe wat to say to G...

A can't even communicate with his normal friends... his best friends and probably only friends are people that knows how to crap with him and project work... Other friends treat him like pest... A only knows how to take crap... A complete Klutz...

Tuatau SG

Originally posted by Big Bot:
The thing is A knows exactly wat to do... but A has nothing and dun noe wat to say to G...

A can't even communicate with his normal friends... his best friends and probably only friends are people that knows how to crap with him and project work... Other friends treat him like pest... A only knows how to take crap... A complete Klutz...

First thing first, A has to ditch that self-crowned "complete klutz" image if he ever wants to win G's heart. Many girls are attracted to guys who exude confidence, and no normal girl likes being with guys who lament all the time, "I'm a loser (sob)... I don't deserve to be with you (sob, sob)... but could I be your boyfriend (blink pitiful puppy's eyes)?".

Assuming A can put his "complete klutz" image behind him, the next thing he should do is to reveal his feelings to G. Unless G is the go-getter type (which she does not seem to be), G could not respond till A has served the ball to her court. It is good A knows what he has to do, but if he does not act on what he knows, it is as good as he doesn't know, or maybe worse.

There are ways to express his feelings to G, even if he finds himself tongue-tied when trying to mouth the words. Here are a few suggestions: He could hold her hand when crossing the road and pretend to forget he's still holding her after that. Or he could slip it in while making lame statements like, "Hey! Look at the old woman falling down... so funny, hahaha... by the way I like you... hahaha..." Or he could simply use the tried-and-tested method: Write a letter. Good luck, A.

coffeeortea SG

where’s def

Big Bot SG

Erm, that wasn't wat I meant, I meant how should A communicate with her... He doesn't see her...so all he can do os phone/SMS/MSN... How should A do to make G play his SMS game or respond to his MSN... I mean what should A talk about? How he should start... Rolling Eyes

Tuatau SG

Originally posted by Big Bot:
Erm, that wasn't wat I meant, I meant how should A communicate with her... He doesn't see her...so all he can do os phone/SMS/MSN... How should A do to make G play his SMS game or respond to his MSN... I mean what should A talk about? How he should start... Rolling Eyes

Why do guys always like to rely on SMS, MSN and email to make the connection? Though the beauty of such communication methods is that they give the guy the safety of hiding behind a cloak without having to show their face, the curse is they also give the girl the safety of avoiding the topic without having to reply if they don't feel like doing so at all. Especially in your case, now that G is having her exams, one certainly wouldn't expect her to be in any mood to play such SMS or MSN games.

Speaking of which, timing has to be right as well. G is preparing for her exams so A shouldn't disturb her too much during this period. Meanwhile, he could still give her a short buzz and show some concern as a friend, like asking her to take care or wishing her all the best for the exams. He could also ask her when her exams are over, and call her again after that to invite her out and catch up with her.

"Friend-ly" stuff like that should be a good way to start things going again. A may have already wasted a few months on SMS and MSN games, and if they aren't showing any results, perhaps he should consider another strategy.