It's not so much about how the society will look upon us -
rather it is how I will adapt to an entirely different way of life.
OK - to make it so much simpler, me being with him will entail a
lot of sacrifice, more on my part than his. It will firstly mean I
would have to move to another country. I just don't think I will be
able to handle the complete overhaul. Being with him would also
mean:
1. Me leaving my family (not because of objection, but more of the
physical distance) - with my Mom getting older and me being so
close to her, I'm just not willing to leave her alone here. I have
asked her to go, but she does not want to leave all the things that
are so familiar to her... and at her age, she is just not willing
to have to learn to adapt to a new environment.
2. Me not being sure of what I would do over there (workwise).
Actually I need not work at all - but what I do
(advertising/design) has always been my passion... and I simply
cannot envision myself not working. I understand that I might be
able to get another job there, but I would then have to start and
learn the style from scratch.
3. Me leaving my best friends. They are very important to me. They
have seen me through some very rough times, and I am loathe to not
be able to see them as often as I would like to.
and a whole lot of other minor reasons that add up quite
substantially.
While it may be true that maybe love can overcome all odds, if I
was younger maybe I would have taken the plunge in a heartbeat.
Maybe as we mature we become more cynical, and rationale takes
over. More often than not, sometimes love just isn't enough.
