The importance of Feeling in a relationship

doomz SG

My gf say she have feeling for her pevious bf,but they broke up due to character crash and quarrel...

She say she have feeling for me but we still break up.....

I want to know how do define feeling?Wat feeling means?Will feeling dies slowly?Feeling will bring sucess and long lasting relationship?Is feeling important?

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

doomz SG

double post due to lag

rainee SG

You don't feel anything special towards her? I think if you do, you wouldn't be posting this thread Laughing

doomz SG

Feeling for her is so strong that it can last till the day i die...because i love her.......

But i want to know feeling is the key to long lasting relationship?

sweetie6 SG

Feeling for someone started from heavy heart-beating.... to wanting... to share everything....every moment with him!!! Embarassed

Tuatau SG

Our definitions of “feeling” may not be the same as hers, and even if we could define her “feeling”, she still would not come back. Why let yourself be bogged down in something that belongs to the past?

littlestream SG

How about....feelings can be "hao-gan", "hao-yi", "yu-ching", "ai-ching", "gan-ching"? So, depending on which level that "feelings" is, sort of determine the level of relationship?

Anyways, since you folks have broken up, I guess you will have to move on, yeah?

Cheer up!

drx SG

I did some research in this area and found some interesting things.
Girls tends to remember guys who they felt had a spark for and will always love the person no matter what he does to her .
Feelings change due to time but this so call spark which the girls felt for guys is something which the girls felt will not change in time.

Strangly enough even when a girl marries and have children the spark for the ex will not die off.

How the spark comes about is very strange too, it seems that the girl who had met a guy and felt very strongly for him no matter wat, will achieved a so call spark. I ask about 10 girls about this and their answer is the same. They will try to be with the guy with they had a spark with. Even they marry another person this will not change.

This may explain why she left you, she may had a spark for her ex but not you so she can break up with you easily with the feeling excuse.

Axelheat755 SG

everything also she say... what about u? do u have feelings for her? Rolling Eyes

if u do, why do u even ask these questions...

if you don't, why are you with her in the 1st place...

Generally i guess feeling means u "feel" that u can grow to love a person, that if you are with that person you can resolve any problems, you feel secure when that person is around, anything is possible with that person etc.

When a couple breaks up, it can be for various reasons... feelings can die if not nurtured properly... how to nurture it is uniquely dependent on the individual person... so people need attention all day long, some need a private space, some overly protective, some just dun show their affections openly etc... so u really need to understand a person well to keep the feelings he/she has for u alive and growing... Rolling Eyes

Axelheat755 SG

What kind of feeling is that?

A sense of loss?

it could be because you are so used to having her around that when she's not there anymore, you miss her...

Thats the feeling of a loss of possession...

i would say feelings is one of the various factors that make up a GOOD & Strong relationship.

Tuatau SG

Originally posted by drx:
I did some research in this area and found some interesting things.
Girls tends to remember guys who they felt had a spark for and will always love the person no matter what he does to her .
Feelings change due to time but this so call spark which the girls felt for guys is something which the girls felt will not change in time.

Strangly enough even when a girl marries and have children the spark for the ex will not die off.

How the spark comes about is very strange too, it seems that the girl who had met a guy and felt very strongly for him no matter wat, will achieved a so call spark. I ask about 10 girls about this and their answer is the same. They will try to be with the guy with they had a spark with. Even they marry another person this will not change.

Good theory. That probably explains why "a man wants to be a woman's first; a woman wants to be a man's last".

starblue SG

people change. their emotions change. their perspective change. hell, their very blood changes every 3 months... wad did you expect? Rolling Eyes

snowmaiden SG

FeowFeow SG

No, Fee1 Ling3 is Not the key to long-lasting r'ships. There'll never be 100% certainty in our lives. All we can do is to give our best shot, & hope the other partner feels loved enuff & loves us enuff to stay.

Nothg in life is certain, apart from death. Love & r'ships r a gamble, juz like a job. U make the choices, u suffer or enjoy the consequences. But the rewards of being in love r q. indescribable : )

FeowFeow

pinkgal SG

she said she has feelings for u too..but maybe it's the way u treated her thus change her feelings for u??there's many different reasons for it..it might also be that she still has feelings for her ex,or becos she found someone new,or the way u treated her,or other reasons which we won't know..but no matter wat's the reason,the relationship has ended & maybe still can be frens & wish her all the best..u will find someone who will appreciate ur love for her Wink

Simple_Bear SG

Wah...

U really sure abt this...

Mr. Green

Devil1976 SG

In reference to your context. I believe the 'feeling' described here would be more like 'chemistry' in which one party would feel for another.

It is often not enough for survival of a relationship by itself (even if a relationship manage to survive on this basis alone, it could be defined as quite a 'hollow' one. Note. It's 'hollow' not meaningless or anything.). However, it is more often than not... The very basis for a normal start up of a LOVE relationship...