Love Thyself

BabyRS SG

The time will come
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door,
in your own mirror...
and each will smile at the other's welcome,

And say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was yourself.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you...

all your life, whom you ignored
for another,
who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
...peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.

For after all that's said and done,
Only by learning to love yourself,
will you learn
to live unselfishly.

..........."I try more and more to be myself, caring relatively little
whether people approve or dissaprove" ...Vincent Van Goh

Does anyone really understand how to actually love oneself selflessly?

_Aaron_ SG

I must say..

Once in a while i hear these two words, "love yourself". But i have never truly understood what it meant.

Does it mean to splurge on yourself once a while?
Does it mean not to be cruel to yourself?
Not to subject yourself to things you don't like?
But how possible is that?

Does it mean to be more optimistic?
To treat yourself better?
To love yourself as you would a lover?

Yet why do they say that only after we learn to love ourself, can we love others? Is loving ourself the first true step in this thing called Love?

I'm still wondering..

varatare SG

Hi BabyRS

The essential of your topic is veru profound. What I am going to "say" here maybe not what you are looking for. But I hope my sharing of what I feel can help you.

I feel basically we are too hard on ourself. Learn to be more forgiving to yourself. Learn to say "no" to thing in life sometimes. Learn to be more responsible for yourself. I believe that is the first step to love thyself.

Regards

Originally posted by BabyRS:
The time will come
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door,
in your own mirror...
and each will smile at the other's welcome,

And say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was yourself.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you...

all your life, whom you ignored
for another,
who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
...peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.

For after all that's said and done,
Only by learning to love yourself,
will you learn
to live unselfishly.

[b]..........."I try more and more to be myself, caring relatively little
whether people approve or dissaprove" ...Vincent Van Goh

Does anyone really understand how to actually love oneself selflessly?[/b]

Devil1976 SG

You bet I do.....? Mr. Green

Oyster Omelette SG

Too much and you are lablled as narcissistic.

Tuatau SG

Originally posted by BabyRS:
Does anyone really understand how to actually love oneself selflessly?

"Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself."
- Matt 22:39

Self love is about fully embracing oneself unconditionally, realising one's own strengths and accepting one's own flaws. Contrary to popular opinion, self love is not about being self-centered, which stems from insecurity of not knowing oneself and hatred of one's own flaws.

When one doesn't love oneself unconditionally, the limited, judgmental, conditional love one gives oneself is all one has, to give anyone. When one sees oneself as flawed, one not only sees others as flawed, but also resents others for seeing the flaws in oneself.

If one decides, instead, to embrace oneself as one is, one would have the capacity to accept and love others as they are. Hence unconditional love for oneself, far from being an act of selfishness, is the most generous thing one could ever do.

Qo|phin SG

Wow...too much called zhi lian kuang

+1... Cool

devoid05 SG

why even bother to try? the concept of self-love is too profound for my grasp, beyond the comprehension of many.
wot do we haf to lose by hating ourselves? many pple hated emselves and became successful in life all the same...

Devil1976 SG

Define 'successful' Question Cool

starblue SG

i think love yourself de first step: never resort to self-mutilation, suicide or wadever that will harm yourself… the rest can come in later.

BabyRS SG

I concur... couldn't have put it better myself. Then again ~ it's all a matter of perception, isn't it? Wink

M©+square SG

There's vast difference between self acceptance/contentment and self OBSESSION.

Cheers

devoid05 SG

success means achieving wotever you set your sights on... the more unattainable the feat, the more successful you become should you manage to achieve it.

an example wld be charles schulz, millionaire author of peanuts who hated himself so much he wld think of suicide everytime he's left alone.

M©+square SG

Hmm....to each it's own.

Read up my siggy?

Cheers

devoid05 SG

well, a little self-love is a good thing, but too much of it can be absolutely fatal.

devoid05 SG

yar... i read.
refreshing n biblical.
can i haf both my soul n the world? Mr. Green

M©+square SG

Balance is the secret. Wink

Tuatau SG

Originally posted by BabyRS:
I concur... couldn't have put it better myself. Then again ~ it's all a matter of perception, isn't it? Wink

Subjective? Yes, pretty much so.

littlestream SG

+ 1 Wink

nuchio SG

last i heard, you spoil yourself.