Originally posted by Yunhaier:
You managed to survive a LDR - an impressive, yet
foolhardy attempt for LDR as you had to leave for Singapore the
next day. A better option would be to settle your overseas studies
first before deciding a relationship with her. I understand
sometimes love can be a first-come-first-serve basis; you would
bound to have certain degree of fear that she becomes unavailable
when you are back. However, this is to eliminate the need for a
risky LDR.
Hard truth is that most LDR fail because couple do not understand
how much different is LDR from ordinary relationship. It is NOT
simply just the distance and NOT merely MSN, emails, phone calls
are sufficient for the relationship to thrive and grow.
You survive though, but gradually deteriorate the love relationship
through [b]Charity and
Individualism. She is free-spirited and the notion
of individualism is very important to her, which is also the
ultimate element that has the potential to break down even the best
of relations. Love thrives on mutual growth, any effect of
Individualism would be of detrimental effect on your
relationship.
You two are like unlike poles; it's true that your are coming
together as a couple, but there is an adverse different sense of
direction... each looking into separate ways and weakening the
magnetic attraction towards one another.
You want her to wake up and learn the lesson of 'Treasuring what
you have now?' 
She has to lose something precious and reality must sink her into
life's lowest point. Only then this lesson can be taught
effectively.
What about you?
Do you truely think both of you are compatible? Since you have led
a proper, ordinary relationship like anyone else, minus the vast
distance? Is that what you are looking for? Or rather, does she
possess the minimal qualities as a gf that could keep you fighting
for the relationship? How long do you think you can substain before
perishing?
P.S: We are all looking for answers. When you give up, you
potentially throw away all possibility, but when you wait, you may
not survive though the ordeal and may induce scars that never
heals. The key is to make your decision and stick with
them. How the scales is being balance, depends on what's
important to you and what you wish to measure it with. 
Cheers [/b]
Don't quite agree with you.
Have you consider the chance that the relationship mihgt have
managed to 'survive' (pathetically?) because it was a LDR?
Reality just shows that the 'truths' can be so much more bare and
cruel to bear when the cards are laid on the table.
