Mr Ding,
this is my first blog, i have seen many topics and none of the
topics has ever push me to type. please heed our advise.
first, you must know what is yours and what is yet to be. your wife
and your daughter is yours and especially your wife, who has been
with you for 17 years. Mona is yet to be, even if she is, how can
you be sure that thing will not repeat again after 17 years? so
treasure what you have now. Around me, i have seen cases of such
incident in my upper generation and i can tell you that eventually
it will be a tradegy, to you and your descendants.
Secondly, i completely understand the suffering of being in a long
term relationship, especially for your case, a 17 years. It is like
eating pork everday. so sick.
hence when a relationship get longer, usually after 7 years, things
will get boring in a relationship. so that is why it is best to get
married after that, to start a new life. on top of that, if you
have a child, you can transfer your love over to him as he is your
own flash and blood.
i am sure that you love your child very much, every parent love
their child, just like how your parents love you. i am sure you do
not want your child to grow up in a broken family, there is some
studies that say chilldren growing up in a brken family may have
physcological problems.
so for the sake of your daughter, hang in there!!!
mona is just a crush, forget her. time will cure all wounds. as for
your wife, i musr compliment her for being so understanding. think
about it, how many woman is that generous? and i am sure she has
alreadly forgive you for the sake of your daughter too, that is why
she do not want to talk about it. it will remind her of
unhappiness.
so please breakup with mona and don let it happen again. such
relationship with mona will be the first but not the last. you must
know how to handle them.
take care and good luck!
