babymac13 SG Well, either u hav not enough of confidence in urself that other guy/girl might overtaken u or u do not hav enough trust in her.
M©+square SG By the way you're putting it. I think you're thinking of reading yr boyfriend's sms without his knowledge. Insecurities and inferior self image affects this area of the mind like poison, desire to get light out of your partner's mysteries and darkside. This act will usually end up - Even if he's clean, there is still poison in your mind to think he is not, the act is irresistable. Hence propels us to approach like a thief, lurking into his privacy. Destruction from this simple act creates ripples which will huant both parties. Breach of trust and lack of faith will arise as problems. Even if he has hanky panky smses in his hp and you caught it. Would you leave him? More like or not, you'll stay with him hence the cycle of the irresistable act and miserable relationship. ____________________________________________________ M©'s Advice: Stick to your values in the relationship, do not let the hp intimidate you into dishonest approach to clear your doubts about your bf. If there is really a need to find out what is in his sms, ask him. Gain open communication and trust. Clear things out when in doubt, especially when you are insecure about certain issues. Your boyfriend should be ever ready to comfort you and assure that the relationship still goes strong. Another point - How long have you been in this relationship? Seems like you're affect by your friends action over your relationship. It's quite uncalled for. Were there any changes in this relationship? Many times, it is not the big problems which destroys a relationship; subconciously the small issues or mistakes in a relationship. Cheers
frenchKiss SG my 2-cent worth.. even if you feel unworthy / insecured or you are suffering in unmentioned ways while you're with your bf, doing things that sabotage the relationship is the surest way to punishing yourself and your conscience. whatever happens, let go of the bitterness for yourself and for him. with love, there's no mistake that can't be forgiven. All the best.
icyprincess SG if he honors my privacy, i will honor his. if he wants to let me see, he will let me see. if not, i wun go see la...I mean msgs are meant to be private. but if i dun wan to let him see then he still go and see, i will get angry. cos I dun like ppl to invade my privacy, when i dun allow it. i.c.y
mek SG ha thanks for the reply... i'm currently not in a r/s la... jus thot of it so i asked... cos i thot alot of ppl do tt but fr the replies here it seems that tts not the case... hmm ya i think its better to respect his privacy and he respect mine...
M©+square SG you're not in a r/s This thread has proven, some people are just here purely for opinions, not real advise.
M©+square SG Can lah.... But next tarm give further info like if you're really facing this problem. So that i won't give advice, instead i'll just give opinions(ss) lor.
alien_04 SG well, sometimes not that you cannot trust but there are cases of people who like to add "my dear", "darling" etc for fun in the sms, your partner may happen to see it and then that insecurity thing surface...... So best not to see anything....
spencer99 SG actually I confessed that I do look at her sms-es and she does check on mine.. but I always do it in front of her and never behind her back. And usually for fun only. I won't find it a betrayal of trust if she check my sms-es behind my back. I have nothing to hide.... and it shows that she cares about the relationship.... right???... if she don't give a damn... she will not bother to check.
Devil1976 SG Yeah... Might be better that way...? Then again, understand that not everybody's okay with that form of 'transparency' okay...? If he needs, gives him some space and privacy? In return, you shall expect the same form of respect from him yeah...?
Gackt247 SG I've never seen.. i dun bother or care.. even if my gf forces me to see i also siam.. But i'm fiercely protective of my privacy n personal space.. many times she asked to see.. even tried to force her way to get her hands on my phone.. i didnt relent.. so.. it's a NO NO for me..
spencer99 SG Actually unless you keep your hp with you at ALL times or use the PIN lock feature, how to ensure that your partner didn't check your sms es when your back is turned and you left the hp somewhere.
[email protected] SG i wont say check…but sometimes i will take her hp and browse thru the msg…she also do tis to me…so nvm la…unless got some dark secret then duno liao…
