Originally posted by clarion:
1) She said the meet was nice and interesting and she is sincere i
believed that
2) She is 36 and kinda of traditional so perhaps i might have come
across as too aggressive by expressing myself to her
3) I believe she is interested in me from her body language
etc
4) She does not mind that i am 5 years younger than me
5)Everything seemed cool
I sent her some sms and an email asking her to tell me if she is no
longer keen so i can move on, but also no reply from her. She does
not seem like the type that would stay silent and seems she is
older she should be able to tell me straight or at least say the
usual stuff, to indicate if she is not interested.
So being optimistic, i am thinking, perhaps
1)_she is thinking something?
2) Insecure?
3) Not into me but enjoying the attention?
4) The type that stay silent and keep ignoring till i give
up?
No expert myself, but here's what I think.
You sound very mature in your analysis, but appear too practical in
that you do not want to waste too much time in the 'pursuit' phase.
A lady loves to be chased -- cutting to the chase makes her feel
like she's some kind of 'lelong' goods on sale. Expressing your
interest to develop the relationship further on the first date may be cost- and
time-efficient, but a tad too intimidating for most ladies to
accept, especially for the traditional-minded type like this lady
whom you're interested in.
Put yourself in the shoes of this lady. Should I say "yes" and risk
making myself sound very 'desperate' in front of this man? Should I
say "no" and risk losing this man who seems decent enough to be a
prospective partner? Both options don't seem appealing, so I'd
rather choose the safest way out and keep mum instead.
If I were you, I'd send her a message by SMS or email and let her
know I understand I've been slightly aggressive (glad you know it
yourself) in pushing the friendship and would give her some time to
know me better first. Ask her if she would continue to be your
friend -- just friend (emphasize) -- and let her know you would be
calling her to ask her out again for dinner or movie a few days
later. (Call -- it is a more sincere form of invitation.) This way,
you'd be giving her some relief space and remember, you don't want
to chase the "prey" away (wrong choice of words perhaps).
You certainly made the scenario sound optimistic, and with your
maturity in thought and your confidence in action, I'm optimistic
of the outcome as well. Good "hunting". 
