same workplace as ex

paradox86 SG

Guys, recently my gf realised her Ex works the same place with her. She told me about it. What you guys think ? shld i continue to allow her to work there or is it ok? Question

AngGuKuay SG

haha.. so qiao ah.. what a small world…

FireIce SG

yah, i bump into one forumite when i was in JB

when i was in HK, i bumped into my classmate

when i was in Aus, i bumped into my schoolmate

world is small, let alone singapore

nightzip SG

so how? Shocked

dragg SG

if she is agreeable then of course it is better for her to seek another job elsewhere.

aCid_rAIn SG

why change job cos ur ex is in her company?
ur ex will eat ur gf up?

hyuuga neji SG

not his ex... her ex...

honestly... it depends whether you trust your gf...
and also the circumstances tat led to her breaking up with her ex...
if either side still has feelings for the other...
then there could be trouble...

dragg SG

it is not just about trust. if the gf is agreeable why not change? it is better to be safe than sorry. i am sure he is concerned thats why he started this thread.

hyuuga neji SG

true...
but gf will have to agree willingly...
pressuring her change job will not do the relationship any good though...
he should be subtle bout it...

vroomvroom SG

Ha...u r really unlucky...
chances of love rekindle btw the 2 and u are out of the pic ....well dont rule tt out.

FeowFeow SG

Dear Paradox86,

1 word: Trust.

If thgs were tt great between her ex & her, u wldn't even be in the pic. However, I can understand ur insecurity. Who likes to noe their partner sees their ex ev. day?

Ask her if it's alrite for her to look for another job, as it makes u feel insecure. I noe if my guy made the same request of me, I wld waste No time looking for another job so tt he can feel more assured : )

FeowFeow

starblue SG

just tell her straight about your concerns. leave the rest to her. it might be a test of your r/s. hang in there. Wink

aCid_rAIn SG

haha opps bunder.
but then just ignore the ex loh. it's not easy to get a job u know.
the ex wont eat her up also. Mr. Green

ILPSY SG

Ehh... Jobs are not easy to find nowadays.
Its only 1 word, "TRUST".
If she can't help falling in love with her ex again, then, that goes to show that your relationship is not that strong either. Why not use this opportunity to test your relationship?

Marmalade Boy SG

You can ask her to change job and that is if she agrees.
Some girls will while others won't.
Some will think why you don't trust me is it?
While others will think why not as long as it makes you feel secure and more assured.

OR

You can trust her and test your relationship.
But you have to try not to be bitter about it.
Take it with a open heart and see how things go.
Relax and enjoy your moments with her.
If it works out, good for you.
If not, take it as a lesson learned.

Good luck and all the best.
Try not to flip or go insane.
Mr. Green

usck SG

hmm..hope ur gf wun eat behind ur back Surprised

eat = FCUK

DeadPoet SG

Why do you keep bumping into people? So clumsy. Laughing

Whaleson SG

yea.. best if she can change a job.. cos gurls.. u'll nv know.. maybe unconsciously u neglected her.. den he came into the picture.. bro might get into deep shit.. but i think if u trust her.. and treats her well... no much of a prob la... Very Happy

Puremilk28 SG

think if the ex does not bother or pester your gf then is ok
unless you feel insecure of them working togetger or fear of them rekindle their rs then you may wat to tok to your gf for a common understanding
jia you dude