She did it again.
You guys are right. She is not giving me respect. 2 nights ago, she
went online telling me I need to socialise and travel to widen my
horizon.
I joined Social Development Service membership a while ago..
She:
did the sds send u anything?
Me:
yes.. finally
She:
going for anything?
Me:
one complementary coupon to confirm a meetup session on april 2nd..
but i'm not going for that for now. Take it slow lor.. got so many
activities. Take my time to see what i want to do..
She:
just go n see lah. Learn to socialise
Me:
yes.. thats why i joined SDS. now just prioritizing my stuffs
first.. secure job, get over exams.. that kind of shit
She:
yah dont wait too long though. i feel u havent venture out b4
Me:
there will be time n place
She:
wait until when, u r 26!
Me:
have faith in me ok ?
She:
let me see, b4 26, where have i been? US,NZ, Aust M'sia. N u r a
guy. u know what i'm saying?
Me:
yes.. so where do i get that money ? work right ? last 5 yrs, been
struggling to make ends meet on n off jobs.
She:
even in spore where have u been?
She:
u have alot of excuses u know
Me:
u keep thinking i am that frog in the well dun u ?
She:
Yes
Me:
mabbe its just me ya know.. this is me for now. And u just have to
accept the fact that there will be a time.
She:
the now seems forever to me
I was like, whoa, there she goes again. I told her there are more
important issues at hand, like putting bread on the table. She
keeps thinking I am that frog in the well and always give excuses.
Her line that struck the rawest nerve "You're just like your dad,
always needed to be pushed to get things done."
Now, my r/ship with my dad may not be all that great, but she
definitely had no rights to criticise him whatsoever. Just bcos I
confided with her in the past, she's throwing all these back at me
! How sad is that ? Really, she's a snob and deserve no more
respect.
She gave me an example that once I tried getting hp number from her
guy fren I met (who happened to be my ex-poly mate) was absolute
no-no as her guy fren tot I was gay by just asking for his hp
number lidat. She then said, thats not the way to deal with things
even if it seems most innocent to you. "Guys dun take hp number
just lidat, unless they are meeting up for TV shopping or
something" .... I tot its perfectly normal ??!! And she said I
'dunno the social code'. What the hell..
I seriously doubt that guy ever tot I was gay or something.. and
just something she made up. Anyway, me and that guy never really
came in contact.
"And you have to stop letting me supply you frens !" was another of
her nonsense. She was the one who invited me to meet her other
frens. Damn bitch.
She has this idea that living the way she does or feel is the right
way.. i.e go travel while you're young, go out and meet new people,
learn to talk like gentlemen. I told her I am comfy being myself
and I need to make ends meet.
Guess she's the real frog in the well..
"Am I the most Jialat guy you ever knew ?" I asked.
"YES"
So i was like ok, for someone I really respected in the past has
turned into a total snob. I really dun understand.
I guess its because when I was down and out, I confided in her too
much that she sees this 'wimpy' side of me ? I mean, I didnt go all
crying and stuff, just regular online chat ya know. Laying the
facts as we go along.
When I reasoned out with her... "I guess its bcos you had this
impressions of me"
She snapped ... "You know what. I will stop. Too much excuses from
you. You have too much pride to admit it. With me, I dun know why
you need the ego. I see you need help desperately in areas you
don't even know. FORGET IT. Just stay home. Forget that I ever
suggested anything to you. Change nothing. Stick to your kind if
you're happier."
So guys, yes, I see your points. She is not putting herself in my
shoes just because she earns 4K a month and need not feed her
family as she has rich sisters.
Oh well, we all do meet crazy ppl once in a while.. haha.
Am minimizing all contacts with her from now on.
