Originally posted by caramon:
I see I see.. it's just a different perspective.. I suppose you are
ok with your wife having a BF?
[Harry and Sally meet again after trip to New York.]
Harry: Would you like to have dinner?... Just friends.
Sally: I thought you didn't believe men and women could be
friends.
Harry: When did I say that?
Sally: On the ride to New York.
Harry: No, no, no, I never said that... Yes, that's right, they
can't be friends. Unless both of them are involved with other
people, then they can... This is an amendment to the earlier rule.
If the two people are in relationships, the pressure of possible
involvement is lifted... That doesn't work either, because what
happens then is, the person you're involved with can't understand
why you need to be friends with the person you're just friends
with. Like it means something is missing from the relationship and
why do you have to go outside to get it? And when you say "No, no,
no it's not true, nothing is missing from the relationship," the
person you're involved with then accuses you of being secretly
attracted to the person you're just friends with, which you
probably are. I mean, come on, who the hell are we kidding, let's
face it. Which brings us back to the earlier rule before the
amendment, which is men and women can't be friends.
Some people may be fine with their spouses having friends of the
opposite sex outside marriage, but such a relationship demands a
lot of trust. Which is all the more difficult considering the times
we live in today.
