Dear MC,
Actually, all of u haf given better advice to Alien than I cld
think of, which is the reason why I haven't contributed my advice :
) Perhaps by arguing over the differences in opinion, we're
actually creating more confusion for Alien wrt the choice she wans
to make.
Ultimately, when I give my advice, my view is tt, I'm here to help
u, u can choose to listen or choose another path, as long as u noe
the consequences.
Hence, altho I disagree wif somethg or agree wif somethg, I'll try
Not to flare up in AA, cosh our purpose in being here is to help
others afterall : )
And as for ur last sentence, I'm glad u brot up the possibility of
my ex meaning his words then, but I guess to me, it appears to be
more a case of "flowery words". Thank gdness now dun haf
Heng ah! 
FeowFeow