Falling in love with a man twice your age?

harrow SG

Think I am falling in love with a man in his forties… he’s charming, gentlemanly… Adivorcee and has a gf now that is in her late twenties… What should I do? Am I courting trouble? He seems to be stringing me along as well…

millienium_bear SG

Shocked You r pretty innocent and fall for his charms.. I have a few gals friends in late 20s who married guy in 40s. Their marriage is not much happier, not based on love and is much different from courtship. Ask yourself why he married his former wife at the 1st place and got divorce in end. All the best to you.. Smile

harrow SG

I do not actually knw him that well, but he seems like a honest good guy... how are their marriage different from the others?

amuletgurl SG

wow,thats gonna be real messy if u get involved….how long did his marriage last b4? by the way,as u’ve just mentioned,he’s got a gf,.............

the Bear SG

if he's honest and good, why the heck is he stringing you along?

jOhO SG

what, would it make it easier to accept him (gf and all + divorcee) if he was in his 20s? Rolling Eyes

harrow SG

Hmm... I do not knw hw long that marriage last, but thats something I should find out more. Btw, I heard he has a son...
But you are right that since he's attached and I shouldn't be harbouring any thoughts. Thanks!

dorothy SG

but older guys.. seems to be more attentive and more caring eh Wink

harrow SG

I was thinking maybe he's really interested in me as well... or maybe I was reading too much into it?? being over-sensitive?

millienium_bear SG

true.. but guys surely expect something from gals in return.. Evil or Very Mad

harrow SG

hmmm... maybe! then age wun be that much of a factor.... haha!! He's really a very charming man for his age!! anyway, that is what make him attractive somehow.

millienium_bear SG

yes lor.. i feel that u deserve a better guy. Smile

the Bear SG

herein, is something else.. he cannot be good and honest if he's interested in you, yet has a girlfriend...

but it does not matter if he is interested or not.. coz he's already got a girlfriend..

if you make a move, you'd be opening up a can of worms as you're putting yourself in as a 3rd party...

don't do that? it'll be messy and will inevitably end in tears...

look around.. there should be other good guys out there who are single, caring and starved of love!

good luck girl! Wink

harrow SG

YES!! Exactly!!!
They are so f**king damn attentive and caring!!! that you are just swoon!!

the Bear SG

not all Laughing

heck! i'm old and decrepit and yet alone

heh heh heh...

jOhO SG

so if he was 20+++ divorced but has a gf, it's ok to be with him?

no matter how u look at it, he's attached...?

harrow SG

Which also brings me to this... what attracts a guy in his forties to a woman half his age??? Is it just happen tht this woman that he likes is half his age?? Guys in his shoes before, pls advise... thanks!

jOhO SG

i'm not in my forties... but young women are always attractive to men at any age... but it's mainly physical.

if u wanna connect on a mental level, i think it's quite rare or difficult.

harrow SG

That's a good piece of advise, I will sleep on this, thanks!!

jOhO SG

oh btw.. bear is single... and he's a frigging good guy too! so it's more than advise he can give u! Laughing

i better run from befalling paws on my skull...