I just initated to break with my bf. I sent him an sms for i
wont be able to tell him my decision verbally. I find that our
social life is different. He is one who used to frequent nightclubs
and pubs. I dont know why but i also have the feeling that he does
still go to such kind of places with his friends for he and his
friends like to go and hug those nightclubs girls and drink and
chat with them.
We have been together for a couple of months and i dread having to
suspect him. Recently he has started to quit smoking and drinking
so he stayed away from his friends but his friends always come and
pester him to go to such places again. He even dared to tell me if
his friends are willing to pay for the tips for the girls and the
beer he dont mind going.
I mean if he's really determined to quit all these why reply that
to his friends, there is a possiblilty that his friends will really
pay for those and does it mean he can do such acts behind my back.
When we are outside and he sees a beautiful girl, he will keep
looking at that direction even if i was talking to him. He said it
will be a fool to not look at beautiful girls.
Now while still in the process of quitting smoking and drinking his
friends all blame me. They questioned him as in "why are you
quitting all the smoking and drinking just for a girl? She's not
pretty, no figure, bad temper, is it worth it?" Though he told them
its not because of me but his friends still blame me.
Am i doing the right thing to break off with him? Though i should
be supporting him in quitting smoking and drinking but i really
feel very tired of all these guesses and his actions. I dont feel
any security at all. To him, a relationship must have sex then
there will love. This is even more unacceptable to me, i asked him
back is there really no love if there is no sex and he said
yes.
From then on, i really lose faith and trust in this relationship,
am now very sad.
