Have known my gf for more than a year nw. We are in the mid 20s.
We developed from heavy petting to one day, had intercourse. It was
her first and the moment we tried, she felt sharp pain. I know it's
natural as it was her first. But even after a few times, it was
still painful to her. She was so tensed up even though we were
relaxed during foreplay before intercourse. It seems she's very
stressed.
After a while, she told me not to try anymore as she's too scared.
We were very relaxed during foreplay and it's only when
intercourse, she's so tense up. I had 'counselled' her before, but
to no avail. Anyway, since she is so scared, I decided to respect
her and abstain from intercourse totally.
Have the following questions to enquire:
a) When I had intercourse with my ex before, I was also her 1st.
During the first two times of intercourse, she felt pain. But after
that, it was 'smooth sailing'. However for my current gf, even
after a few times, she felt so much pain even though we were well
'lubricated'. Is it because of her size, as she is quite small
size?
b) I know I have to respect her wishes to abstain from intercourse,
as i don't want to hurt her. But to be frank, as a guy, I have my
own urges and sometimes I find it hard to control. Just like to
know, whether anyone here has been a couple but never had
intercourse with his gf during the relationship? How can you
control? I know love not only encompass the physical self..but to
be frank, how to ccntrol the urge then?
Thanks! Hope to receive frank and sincere views. 
