How would you know .. ?

juz_A_gal SG · 2005-02-24T09:31:58+00:00

hmm. r/s is hard work isn''t it? You've done ur part to keep the romance alive but HAS HE? ppl change and some take different directions. you're writing in...

juz_A_gal SG

How would you know if your partner is bored/tired with you?
I think I'm becoming paranoid. I keep thinking that my bf doesn't love me as much as he used to. Thing is he hasn't scolded me, or gotten irritated at me.. nothing of these sorts.. just... feel that the way he looks at me sometimes is different from last time.
We've been together for 2+ yrs.. and we've been a simple couple.. no major quarrels.......

wishhunter SG

go for short break and things will lighten up. don’t see one another for a week or 2

Danisdead101times SG

well,since you can say the r/s is already 2years+,you can't expect everything to be the same as before...things changes and times goes by..so need not think that much and don't even try to pick up any quarrels becuz of this...
just relac and find a day which the two of you cna have a lomantic date out~

starExcaliblur SG

physically or emotionally ?

sometimes, absence do makes the heart grew fonder

Danisdead101times SG

may also makes a heart goes wild~

ahmike SG

Try to spice up your romantic life together... Go travel, cook at home, give him a good massage. etc.

Do something out of the normal. Is he working/student? What about your profile? What you doing also.? Sometimes guy/gal when working will feel very bored with work so other part of life also may be affected.

BrUtUs SG

okok, do yourself a favor... stop thinking so much... y? if hes tired of u, u probably wont be seeing him liao.... instead of thinking of all these unnecessary things, y dun u use that much energy to treat yr bf better and think of ways of continue add spice to your relationship.... Rolling Eyes

blowfish SG

cherish him while u can and don be too sensitive.

live today like the last with him everyday.

juz_A_gal SG

thanx peeps. i guess i'm just paranoid. maybe it's another mood swing? hmm.. but no. i'll never pick a quarrel juz 'cos of issues like this. too trivial and unsubstantiated.
i only see him once a week 'cos he's serving ns and working part time, while i'm working full-time and studying part time. our only day we meet is saturday. occasionally sunday night when he's not too tired.
i can't travel 'cos of classes. only in june do i get a short holiday. maybe i'll plan one then.
yeah, i always make it a point to do something special for him. or at least pop some surprise gift. ah. once i finish my studies (2-3yrs more!!!) i guess i can do more for him then.

BrUtUs SG

ok good to hear that... keep cool... goodluck in your relationship!

Devil1976 SG

If you want it to be SWEET, SATURDAYs are already GOOD ENOUGH... Cool

[email protected] SG

u almost same as me…with my gf for 19mths…she said i don love her as much…or rather i have changed…but i don feel any diff…nv had any major quarrels…but alot of small disagreement…funny.

gerrykoh SG

Once honeymoon period is over, everything gets routine & boring.
Don't worry abt your bf losing interest.
U will know cos he will start making excuses for not meeting u, less phone calls & SMS etc.

Think of creative ways of spending time together- go for nature walks/hiking, attend concerts/ shows, learn some new sports or dancing, try baking/cooking.
Don't neglect your own friends, go on group dates, do volunteering together.
Even at home, u can start a picture album or download yr fav. love songs, give him a facial/ massage/ colour his hair etc.

U can read up in internet/ books for more ideas

fairlady04 SG

i agree with gerrykoh.
if u really feel insecure, why not make more friends, expand ur circle of friends. have ur own life. if the worst really happens, at least u ve got a life, and ur own group of friends, plus potential suitors too.
u r still very young. keep ur options open.

snowmaiden SG

try going for an image change; example a new hairdo, put on slight make up if u doesn't, change of dress code to something more sensual...and sense of touch is very impt in a relationship. these changes will let him take note of you more and realise that u're still as pretty and loving as u guys used to be.... Smile

FeowFeow SG

Dear Gal,

In the beginning of courtship, chemistry is apparent, & there're many new thgs u dunno abt ur partner, even if he was ur fren before. U'd never experienced the way he treats someone he has special feelings for. Ev. thg, combined wif the heady experience of somethg new, sends out sparks of romance & u treasure ev. min together.

After 2 yrs, tt mystery abt ur partner fades, & wat's left in place is a solid frenship & love tt provides support when u need it, genuine care & concern for u without the need to impress. U see the real guy u've entered a r'ship wif, & decide whether or Not u can spend the rest of ur life wif tt person.

New experiences or little surprises may help in keeping tt little spark tt has faded, & it takes work to make the r'ship last, but it can, & chances r, it will, if both sides r committed enuff to see thgs thru. It'll be the greatest reward in ur life.

FeowFeow

Devil1976 SG

NICE... Cool

Fuqua SG

Mini crisis or the beginning of the end?

Ask for some time away from him - see if he care.
If he doesn't, maybe it's time to call this r/s quits.

juz_A_gal SG

my partner and i do have our own circle of friends. he has more (i generally would like to think it's 'cos guys just bond better with guys) and yes i've met them. i have my own small but close-knit circle too.
we're just really bz with our lives and a saturday together is too precious for me to miss with him... if we do miss it, it's only 'cos he's got duty, or i've got class. that kinda thing.
i think trust is the biggest foundation we must have, else this wouldn't have worked at all. i trust my guy to be faithful and loyal to me. and he has the same trust in me. i dun call to check on him, partially prob 'cos i also dun wanna become one of those paranoid galfrenz. those are just freaky.
i make it a point not to let the romance fade away completely. i'll always do stuff to make this special. i don't expect him to change. in fact he's always been like that..... haha! we gals are a funny bunch. he'd be a fantastic husband.. and i really look forward to that day.................... too bad still gotta wait long long loooooooooong.

mach10 SG

well, u got hope there!

my sister is getting married soon, and her boyfriend? was with her since sec 3...

These things still happen these days yah!!

NS drains energy, thoughts, life... seize the day is the word. cool! Kambatte!!