Questions

timble SG

What would you are in late 20s and own a flat that will be ready in 4-5 yrs
1. Stay with parentsin-law
2. Rent a flat
3. Choose other flats

How do u know if you have found the one?

Devil1976 SG

Are you saying that you're married and looking for a place to stay...? Rolling Eyes

foxwalk SG

rent a flat.

M©+square SG

I see Three questions here.
Don't know which to answer. Confused

icebaby0 SG

no one understands ur question(s)!

timble SG

Hi All,

I wrote that while my mind was in a whirlpool.. think foxwalk got what I meant...

Tks for the interest in this thread. That was my first post here...
Was quite surprise to see this topic again, after other subsequent posts...
Let me try to be more specific...for the sake of curiosity...

Question 1
Imagine that you were a girl in late 20s, planning to start a family but chose to own a flat that will be ready in a few years time

Would you temporarily (for 1-2 yrs)
(i) rent a flat
(ii) stay with in-laws
(iii) Give up your dream flat and choose other flats?

Question 2
How do you know if you have found the right person who is meant for you?
To expand on the question further:
How does it feel like?
Are we loving ourselves too much that there isn't a right person anymore?
Does real love hurts or would it be so comfortable that u know that person is your soulmate?

Adding 2 more questions
There was this fren who shared that girls who are poly or sec educated are more receptive to the idea than a grad. I dun agree with him cos I have tertiary educated frens who are all for the idea of staying with in-laws
Your views,pls?

timble SG

The question that I have left out: Be the right person for the person you love or find the right person whom you can identify and get along, i.e. find a Tong2 Lei4 (Same species?)

Devil1976 SG

Your question very 'cheem'...? Not very well-phrased?

Magnus SG

Timble, the question I wanted to ask is, are you married at all?
Are you having second thoughts?

Devil1976 SG

Really's subjective. Though generally speaking, their thinking patterns might be kinda different.

M©+square SG

I think she's having all these thoughts in her mind. And only there.

Magnus SG

Okaay..

The reason I asked is because of the sub-questions in 'question 2'.
Seems like she's not sure about the person she's about to/married to.

M©+square SG

To me. Qns 2 is redundant.

You can't teach an inexperienced about matters of the heart.
Whereas thru Sharing delivers Information. that's all.

BrUtUs SG

erm. u mean u already got bf/husband and now waiting for flat? if so, must c how the relationship with in laws goes and how big is the inlaws home and how much u want "privacy" with your husband... if all is positive, first option is stay with them first...
Q2. i also dunno how explain... but ask yourself this... imagine, would u want to be with this guy in many years to come? do u feel happy with him? does he treat u well? if yes, he 'may' just be the 'one'...
as for the final 1, that one i believe its more on the gal~inlaws relation...

BrUtUs SG

c the chemistry lor... find the one who loves u and someone who u can accept to b with for your entire life... it does not have to b a tong lei cos there r cases where odds make a good relationship......

starExcaliblur SG

depends loh, some in-laws r nice 2 get along with, some r difficult 2 get along with (in the extreme case, they can break a marriage)

gerrykoh SG

Since u are starting out, best u save money for your new flat.
So stay with your in-laws if u get along well.
Alternatively stay with your parents (now modern, I'm sure yr hubby won't mind).
There are a lot of advantages- free meals + less housework & bills to pay.

Chosing the right one- he must have the caring personality, u must be able to communicate with him & most impt. that special feeling when he is with u.
Don't marry cos your flat is coming.