She has BF. Should I woo her?

Li Ka Shing SG

I like a girl who already has a BF. Should I woo her or not?

My friends told me not to disturb them.

My view is: a dating couple is not like a married couple. I will never woo a married woman. A dating couple is still in exploratory phase and still in the process of searching a mate. So my believe is, I still have the right to woo the girl and the girl still has the right to change her mind and be with me.

What do u guys think? Should I woo a girl with a BF?

Thanks for the advice.

Otingocni SG

Rules, laws and norms are set by human. Everyone's interpretation is different.

If you can withstand the judgmental assault of others, it doesn't matter if she's married, attached, with kids.

Note: if she is not able to withstand the onslaught, the relationship may not go for long.

skeujin SG

how wld u feel if some1 wooed yr gf wen yr together.

if u tried anythg w my gal. i wld bitchslap u, til u cry like a baby...

Danisdead101times SG

better not to disturb their r/s…if the girl ever leave her current bf to be with you,then that means that she is also not a good girl…and may also leave you for another oneday~ give your blessing to them and maybe you can wait till their r/s really end then take the chance to tell her lor~

dumbdumb! SG

i'm facing the same problem Sad

it's quite sad that the girls that i like are either, attached, or they want to remain single (it's a christian thing) Crying or Very sad

the.raven SG

just grab your object, and go woo her.

Båseline SG

It's the other way round. Wanna get humtum by the guy first ah? Laughing

dumbdumb! SG

haiz Sad

then again. even if you be a nice guy, and don't break a couple up, doesn't mean next time people won't break u 2 up either. just because u are nice, doesn't mean ppl will be nice towards u.

its ur call man..

Danisdead101times SG

just a gal only,why haiz here and there? no money then haiz~

dumbdumb! SG

no money too Cool

Danisdead101times SG

if you think in this way,means that you have no mutual trust for your gal...and no matter how the gal loves you,you two also won't be together long~

the.raven SG

but I thought he always likes to grab his object one? Laughing

greengoblin SG

How come they want to remain single leh?

Ayla SG

Actually it depends on how you look at it. Does the gal likes you? If she does, whether you woos her or not, she will still break up with her bf if their r/s is not strong enough.

If she doesn't, then no matter how hard you tried, you won't get anything out of it. In life, one should pursue for what they want. If you think she is the right one for you, go ahead. But make it an open competition. I'm sure you wouldn't like another guy to steal your gf in the underhand methods without your knowledge right?

Be rational. Wink

FireIce SG

no.

u shd woo her mom

starExcaliblur SG

f the rules, 2 hell wif the laws, break the norm, there's no definite / right / wrong answers when it comes to affairs of the heart, it jus depends on how u think n whether u r rational

as wat Otingocni puts it, u must be prepared 4 the onslaught of insults n criticisms tat will be thrown at u 2 by family members, relatives n friends from both sides if u want 2 go ahead ( esp if the woman is married)

dumbdumb! SG

nono, thats not what i mean. i mean, why should u play the nice guy when u are targetting a girl who is attached, the reasoning of "you won't like it if someone does the same to you" doesn't seem logical, because even if u don't do underhand things, doesn't mean next time other people won't

carpe diem jur SG

my point of view is that u can take time to get to know her better before u make ur decision... since she's attached, u wouldnt have a chance to get close to her if her bf is protective... not to mention woo her loh....right?

but i strongly believe that everyone in a relationship should have the right to get to know more gers or guys and is ok to hang out with the opposite sex.... as long as no two-timing, betrayal, deceiving, is fine... if in the end, both parties still choose to be with each other even after getting to know all sorts of people in the opposite sex, it will prove that when one day this couple were to get married, they wouldnt have regrets... it is their final choice but if they cannot make it thru and either one party chose another person, be glad that he/she had made a choice for himself/herself instead of more regrets later...

dumbdumb! SG

well.. sadly not everyone will share your ideals

keuriseudo SG

My advice: -

Please be considerate on your part. Think about it this way, if someone goes after your own girlfriend, and she happened to be going out with him, how would you feel?

So, I would suggest that you befriend her instead and be steady not to let her know you're attracted to her. Try to be cocky and funny instead. Girls love it. And in time, if she happen to like you, good for you.

Note: During the times when you are her friend, don't do too many things for her, it WON'T work out for the better on your side. Trust me.

If there're any questions or suggestions, you may PM me or post it here. I'll be more than willing to help you.

All the Best in your pursuits! Cool

yours truly,
S.H.I.N.