Friend's sex problems

wallie SG

How would you feel if your friend told you her bf has forced himself on her before, and she didn't even enjoy it most of the time? he knows abt that, but he still does it.

I feel compelled to tell her he's a jerk, but I know I have no right in saying that. Sighs.

Why do some guys force themselves on their gfs?

[email protected] SG

because they are jerks. I think u've already answered your own question?

wallie SG

I feel very troubled, and it makes me lose my faith in guys in general. I have a feeling my friend is heading towards disaster, just like she did in her previous relationship. But I know I shouldn't say anything.. maybe I am too eager to protect her. I did tell her to talk to him about it. But she said all is forgotten in the heat of the moment again, and she just gives in..

Us women are so stupid..

faithblade SG

First thing first... HOLY SHIT! Shocked

Did you know this qualifys as a rape case?! Shocked No man should force himself onto any woman. What he did is not only wrong, it's unethical and insultive.

Now you gotta make a decision with your friend, to expose this rapist or not? How will this affect your lives? Who do you want to turn to? and most importantly, helping your friend get on with it all after this incident. Sad

Personally... for being a hot blooded guy, I'd castrate him, mail his parts back to his family, beat him up where ever I see him in the streets, find a huge hairy man to rape him back... sweet revenge Twisted Evil but that's me, you gotta make your own final decisions

wallie SG

I don't think she treats it as rape.. that's the problem. She tells me that she feels resentful at times. I guess my friend gives in too easily.. I really hate that guy. Why does she date scum? But on the other hand, who am I to judge? That's why I'm caught between telling her to have a good thought about this jerk, and just keeping my mouth shut. I tried to give her the best advice I can afford without crossing the line, but it's useless, 'cause she did tell him before, but what's the point?

What angers me is also he knows that she didn't even enjoy it most of the time, but still keep doing it. At least learn some new moves lah! Some men think it's just in-out and that is it.

faithblade SG

Well, learning new moves to heat up the action is one thing, sex without consent is another. If your lady friend consents to sex then it's not rape. But if it's unwilling... it's call rape. Did you know statically proven, rape often occure from people you already know? Sad

Talk to your friend, she might see this as a way to maintain a relationship, but a relationship is based on trust and love... not forced entry.

[email protected] SG

im not surprised, and i don't blame you. I've long ago kinda lost faith in male-kind.

[email protected] SG

if she slept with a pair of scissors next to the bed, and does not hesitate to put the blades to his pathetic excuse of a prick, I think he might think twice. Rapists deserve penectomy.

ejb SG

well, if you want your frd to really resist, just tell her to act like a "dead fish" when she's being forced, dun show any emotion of "disliking" or "hating" sex, but instead, show him the look of being very sianz of sex, or like acting that his bf "skills" are terrible, that will put off her bf advance..

(e.g when he's in-outing, then, ask your frd to act like looking elsewhere, or bo chap him, he'll feel very dis-interested soon)

faithblade SG

Hey hey ladies... relax, not all men are animals that crawled out from the bowels of the earth. There are still gentlemen out there... sadly we're becoming endangered and extinct soon.
It's all bout judgement, don't blame the entire bunch of fruits if one fruit taste sour, right? Wink
It all depends on where you go to find your guys too and what kinda signals you sent out. Wink

wallie SG

I think she wasn't happy the 1st time it happened, but she gave in and convinced herself it's not rape (that's why she never mentioned that). And of course once you start giving in, you'd keep doing it right? As for learning new moves, I feel if your gf gives in to you, at least make a real effort to please her! Sounds like to me he's just concerned with making himself happy.

She is definitely resentful, but she told me its not something she keeps thinking abt (i think she is just burying it). She said she does'nt trust him to not do it if they stay together before marriage.

wallie SG

What happened to you that made you think that? Are you a girl?

p1ll0w SG

It is a rape..cos the girl is unable to defend herself in both physical or emotional terms, but a lawyer would prob argue otherwise. Mad

You better rescue your friend soon..cos the guy once get the inch will want a yard...and god knows what ill that leads to Evil or Very Mad

faithblade SG

First, you're right, he's doing it to please himself. Second, yes, she sounds like she's burying it, deny the truth. Lastly, please tell her he's not after a wonderful Disney marriage with her, only her body.
By the way... how old are you guys?

wallie SG

She said she tried rejecting him but felt bad when he acted like he's sad after being rejected.

wallie SG

We're in our 20s, but that doesn't mean we should have sex just 'cause the guy wants it (and doesn't even bother about pleasing her)

She seems convinced she wants to mayy him. It would be giving her advice when she didn't ask for it and at the expense of our friendship.. Sad

sgboy2004 SG

got use condy?

[email protected] SG

me? gollie. how should i answer that? i guess both no and yes.

wallie SG

She did mention she's not strong enough to fend him off which gave me the impression that he physically forced himself on her. I really hate him for doing this to my friend.

faithblade SG

alamak... that's the problem with you ladies... Sad

She feels responsible for making him feel sad and he's raping her? hua... I must say he's good.

It's like he's slapping her and she feels it's all her fault.

She need to see the world, the world does not revolve around him sia... sad life Sad