As an ex volunteer counsellor, the ideal case would be that the
girl gets attached in the last year of university studies, this
ensures that she is already mature enough to handle a certain level
of stress. It also helps when you enter the workforce and actually
earn more money than the guy. In many sad cases i have seen so far,
the guys normally feel inferior in that sense.
Guys do have alotof pride.
I would advice you to wait up for a bit and use this time to
develop the other areas of your life, character and such.
Two "incomplete" persons end up breaking up.
One "complete" person + one "incomplete" person is stressful.
Two "complete" persons can enter into a relationship and even if a
breakup occurs, both will look back at it as a good experience and
come out of it as a "complete" person.
By complete, i mean that the person is mature and
character-developed enough to be independent by him/herself. No
offence mean to anyone.
Have the end in mind, no releationship is easy. Marriage must be on
the cards if a couple decides to enter into a relationship, if not,
it will end up a whole of hurt.
Ask the guy if he is considering marriage, and make him give you a
reply a week later. If he tells you on the spot or tells you before
a week is up, he's not even really thinking about it seriously
enough. This is a basic indicator of character development-
patience.
You should call up professional helplines if you are really very
vexed, most of the helplines have very nice people manning them.
Try TOUCHline, or just call TOUCH Youth Services for advice,
they're really very patient and nice.
PS: By the way, mums should be your best friend. Mum's advice goes
a long way
