Hi velvet.
I've read your previous post including the above quoted post. And
honestly speaking, I feel for you. I know how much it might have
hurt you this way. However, let's put emotions aside right now and
focus on more important things instead.
Okay. Back to the real topic... and I've got only a few words to
confront you - You don't "get it"! - Get it? If not, nvm.
1) Before you ever think or confess in your posts that your girl
has changed, ask yourself these bloody questions,
"Have you changed also?",
"Have you let her down in any ways before?",
"How would you rate yourself out of ten stars judging from a girl's
point of view (feelings) about you?",
and the most important question is,
"Has your kind of so called 'MAN-liness' or 'manhood' deteriorated
to a point where she no longer regards you as a guy she could trust
her life with?"
In another words, have you by accident, turn yourself into a Wuss?
(Check the american dictionary or ask any Ang-Moh speaking frens if
u dunno wad a Wuss is.)
2) I really agree with the forumites here that you are restricting
her in many ways. And I believe that even in a relationship, there
must be some time and space for each individual to do their own
stuffs, to spend time alone or whatsoever. Moreover, you and your
girl are not married yet, so there ought to be some private times
here and there still. Also, I want you to reflect on the comments
these people here have commented about you - Are you a selfish
arse? Yes reflect on that. No need to post your answers here. You
know it yourself, then DO something about it.
3) Just wanna clarify something here. "Do people really change for
love?" The answer is, "Only a fool will do that. And I mean a
REAL fool." This
is the same way of asking a question like, "Does a guy gives up his
career for a woman?" RUBBISH! Only a Wuss will do that. Let me tell
you one thing, one doesn't need to change for love. Love is not of
any conditions, rather, it's a decision and then, an action. You
decide, then act on it. Get it dude?
4) Since you're the "stay-at-home" kind of guy, I suggest, you do
some activities instead. Go pick up some outdoor sports, hobbies,
games or life. No point sitting at home thinking and meditating
that you are a homely person all the time. Just a reminder, even if
you think you are a piece of shit, hey, you are right! It's all in
the mind. Mind you, I'm not trying to change you, I'm just making
suggestions on some ways of improving the quality of your life and
it's YOUR choice.
5) You wrote this - "Is it time
to let go of this relationship? Considering that perhaps she was
never the type of girl that i like? I dunno, I keep on pondering
without getting any answers." What's going on here...? Are
you in doubt? Haha... that speaks clearly on how you value your
"love" for her. In my opinion, I think you should quit pondering
and start loving. And as a third party reading this final note from
you, man... I'm really disappointed in you. Bark up pal!
yours sincerely,
S.H.I.N.
