looks like you've met the terrible people...
however, there is this saying.. people are attracted to those who
are "dangerous" and will break their hearts... and totally miss the
wonderful people who will essentially be wallflowers..
those who flutter like moths to the candles, will eventually be
singed...
look for the nice guys.. look hard... and do not fault them for
being "boring" because most of the time, good and nice is boring...
but they will be good to you..
and remember this... people remember the highlights...
which means that if the guy who loves, honours and respects you, if
he screws up, you'll remember that screwup...
and if the piece of crap who is habitually terrible to you, does
one thing good for you, you'll remember that one good thing and
forget his nasty disposition...
don't bemoan your fate if you remember that good thing.. and forget
the tons of good things the good man has done..
it is the fate of many...