hi, i encountered something like this last year. My bf suddenly
felt very sian. we always quarreled over trivial things. got
irritated by my slightest action or words. Then he asked for a
cooling down period. It was very bad then. I felt helpless and
desperate cos there were a lot of considerations. We got a car and
house together. So breaking up also meant a lot of financial
problems. Of cos, the relationship was very important too.
My friends asked me to read 'men are from Mars, women are from
Venus'. There is a chapter there that talked abt men are like
rubberbands. u cannot stretch it too far, or it will snap. But if u
allow it to stretch far enuf, it will come back to original
place.
true enuf, he became better after a mth. It was a painful 1 mth for
me, cos i heard all sorts of stories of him with other girls. But
he was willing to salvage the relationship when i threatened to
break up for good. I realised that it was a depression, a low
period when he felt suffocated by me, a phase he got to get over.
some guys have it, some guys dun.
he felt that i was too dependent on him. he had no room to breathe.
he felt that he could not go out with his friends cos i will be
angry/sad/lonely. he felt that he needed sometime alone to think
our r'ship thru. and at the end of it, he felt that he still loves
me. so all ends well. we tried to patch back bit by bit after 1
mth, it was awkward at 1st. but bit by bit, we are back to normal.
we picked up a sport together, and become closer to each other.
after 6 mths, we are stronger than ever. 2 mths ago, we got
married.
i dunno how true that is for ur bf, bcos it may well be a 3rd
party. but u shld sit down and talk. If it wasnt a 3rd party, i
dare say he will be alright after a while. and if it is a 3rd
party, then wats the point of holding on? feelings have changed. he
has betrayed u. he had moved on, so shld u.
