Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Mars is weak; you talk about loving him and you
focus far too much on the emotional aspect of your relationship
without first realizing what MUST be done to secure the walls of
the relationship - Like trying to contain water without having a
container. One must be practical and adaptable in face of our
unique personal relationship. We must learn to compromise and blend
into our relationship, working for the greater good of our Love
(CloUdiSm R3 - Fifth Law of the Old World), instead of persisting
in our strict preception of certain issue and remain stubborn in
them.
You spoke alot of why, but if you were to analysis your situation -
[b]you are greatly involved in the core of the actual
problem. Instead of providing confidence in the relationship
by being firm, defensive and going all out in one common-message,
you did things that provide platform for misunderstanding to take
place. Your overall intention may be good and your heart is with
him, but your method ain't effective and continues to fuel sparks
that burn the relationship inside-out.
Man are such simple creatures when it comes to Love: What they see,
they believe. And to think that your ex-bf already make known to
you that he wants to break up your relationship and you naively
walk to where he dug his pit-trap. You answered his call
(regardless of intention), spoke to him, etc when in fact you
should have practice complete ignore, change your phone if possible
and such.
Why not? If you truely understand your bf well enough, you should
already know that such thingy will shake the relationship, then if
it is within your means to avoid them, do it. Then he has to know
what is your stand and what have you been trying to do about this
issue. Communication is very much needed - it's no wonder why he
thought you still had feelings for your ex. Actions never fails to
speak louder than words. This is protection of your
relationship and if you fail the protect your
relationship, you will see it fall even if love still existed.
Cheers[/b]
Thankx for ur quote I'll go and think about all............ I
actually changed my number twice but he still managed to get my
number I also dunno how he does it.i wanna try to ask A not to call
anymore to give up is cos that X will still be angry when A called
even I didn't answer the call. He'll think that i actually contact
him first................. until now A still called just now
also
