I think the part about chemistry is very important. Sometimes,
people seek consolation in the thought that time can change
mindsets and ignite sparks. But this is like clutching to a sinking
ship if u wait and wait and wait without any favourable
response.
I am not suggesting u jump the gun but rather be assertive. From
what I have experienced and observed it is a good sign if you ask
the girl out for a movie, bowling session, makan session or even
TCSS and she obliges WILLINGLY. U can first start
with group outings and then when u are really familar, ask her out
on a one to one session. Be direct and sincere in your invitation
to the outing, don't beat about the bush.
Do not initiate contact or attempt to hold her hand in the first
solo outing. Go out maybe up to five or even ten times before doing
so. If u can have at least one a week solo sessions or even better
twice a week meet-ups, it is a good start.
One more good indication is when it comes to footing the bill. I am
talking about DECENT girls here not orportunists. Hope u can
differentiate between the two. Decent girls if they are not
prepared to start something serious with u will normally suggest to
go dutch...ie u pay your bill, she pays her's. If on the other hand
she allows u to pay the bill, it can be a good sign too.
If on the other hand, she is always hesistant or appears to have a
full schedule everytime u ask her out.......just keep her as a
friend, she is NOT interested.
As for me, I was and still am a car fanatic or lunatic (according
to some of my pals) who used to prefer hearing turbos screaming
rather that be involved in a conversation with the opposite sex. Of
course pretty girls were attractive but I found cars more
appealing. Until I met my Wifey. We had our first solo session by
the second month of knowing each other. We got attached in the
fourth month and the rest is history. I surprised her with flowers,
cards (made by myself), searched for and bought her favourite song
albums which were very hard to find.
All I can say is she understands me and can predict me better than
my own mother 
We also never had to
struggle to find something to talk about, it was so spontaneous.
These are fundamental qualities you look for in a soul mate.
The important thing is find out what she likes through your
chatting sessions. Then go surprise her...find out what flowers she
likes, what she likes to eat, the music she like to listen to, then
work your magic. Girls really like guys who can cook The key is you have to
do all this urself, cook her favourite dish for her, sent her her
favourite flowers, make elaborate cards for her urself,take her to
her favourite restaurant. Do try to add the element of surprise, it
really adds spice to the relationship.
Girls really treasure the thing that are handmade by their
boyfriends, especially if it is an elaborate item And
if you learn to cook for her sake, she will be bowled over
I remember my first
attempt at stir-fried ocean trout...it looked more like scrambled
fish to me but tasted okay. She was so happy with the effort she
ate the whole lot of it....of course since then it has improved
Good luck dude.
