Feeling helpless in Singapore. Being poor sucks!

Ogbunwezeh SG

This applies to those extreme rich with billions n billions of fortune.

boy in blues SG

when you are poor, you are assured that your friends are your friends. a man's greatest asset is not his fortune because fortunes change. but rather his wisdom and resilience under tenacity, because they are steadfast and matures with experience. from real life examples i see in my friends, they didn't need a degree nor even a diploma to succeed in S'pore. but if you insist that your self-worth must be affirmed by some university accrediting its degree to you. there's no hurry because the school will always be standing there waiting for you. just get ready your tuition fees. work before you study because only after that can you appreciate studying and why you are studying. as for pragmatic ladies, they will never strip naked before you, but their intents and purposes are transparent to you. no difficulty distinguishing them from the rest.

so, being poor. you have no delusions of grandeur. pride leads to destruction and you have been immunised. the world appears clear to you in its true and ugly form, allowing you to consolidate your thoughts on how best to maneuver yourself through life to your ultimate destiny

workhard SG

huh yr like me like that leh but then hoh when u think of it why u think so much when u start to notice the little things in yr life then u will be happy if u stick to what people in society think its happy then u will be unhappy if u cannot get loh

in short define yr own happiness.

no gf or they give u some cork excuse then just go without one loh i mean u will always have yearnings for one but as time goes buy u find that have or dont have its also not that important once u find out in life what makes u happy.

if u keep thinking about this things it just gets worse and worse or get involved in some volunteer work loh. u poor i also poor until u see someguy lacking something or parts of their body then u see them even happier than u i think from there u can start finding what's it that keeps them happy.

they even worse than us ah girls see u at least talk i see some girls see people who are unfortunate or beggars they siam until dont know where this type of girls u want meh. if next time something happen to u they will also do the same thing to u

change yr state of mind and u change everything

even plain vegetables become a delicacy

Spear SG

Try this perspective comrade...

People who grow up under a poorer and harsher environment as compared to others born with a silver spoon since birth would have to depend more on themselves for a great deal more in life.

Maybe the earlier phase of life will be harsh, unhappy, or even deprived to certain aspects - dependent on how you see this world.

However as you gradually progress along this survival curve, you will find one who has been the storms can adapt and be better equipped with the neccessary survival skills to effectively deal with this cruel and dynamic world.

If someone has to be cruel to you anyway, why not let that person be you?

Take pride in the opportunity to horn yourself into SOMEBODY from scratch.

Think it's impossible? Think Lee Kong Chian.

'm back SG

of course if u dun hav much education some can still be successful...som mayb family oredi rich so offsprings good life...but that may not be permanent things change...some may be successful see them drive cars and wear office wear to work but maybe every month struggling veri hard topay for the car dam n maybe live in 2 or 3 rooms flats only.....some mayb 1 month dun know earn how much but hav to know ttheir limits they find that they have to worked harder than the rest every month to just break even - expenses versus income....and those without cert can only limit to a certain job scope..everydae drive here and there tok tok tok run like sales dog..or try to persuade and tok until mouth dry....but the real suce=cess one orso got u see the entrepreuner a few very famous hav to giv them the credit but dun forget the importance of education and certain specialisted profession that this world cannot do without - lawyers, doctors, teachers, writers, artists, musicians, research personnel, scientists, philosophers, archaeiologists etc...all this primary or secondary edu alone can?

i tell u when i work wif a female graduate in my company and other also engineers or supervisors but non graduates i see each one of them tackle technical issue i can tell the difference oredi...all are given title "engineer" but the way they approach a problem differs by leaps and bounds......
........education and certifications is not the main factor for success....but tradition cannot be shattered......education will and always be needed there Mr. Green

RaTtY81 SG

being poor isint a bad thing totally. at least it lets u understands the importance of $$$. so u wun spend so freely like nobody buisness. and comparing ur hard earn money and money given by ur parents, the hard earn money is definately has more “value”.

RaTtY81 SG

saab95 SG

Not bragging but I must say I come from a rather comfortable family. Since young I had things most other kids (unless they are filthy rich) could never afford to have.

Still, I was thrown into BMT along with all the hock-kian pengs, with some I made good friends with. My brother was also a white horse, and he too was thrown in a combat infantry unit and sweated it out with the hock kian pengs. Fact is neither me nor my brother enjoyed any priveledge at all, perhaps we had some immunity but this was NOT evident in the way we were treated. And we did have bunkmates who were chauffered in Mercedes S classes, BMWs, etc...and they were also thrashed.

I think the system is fair, unless of course if the rich can "chao keng" and hire a specialist to state that there is something wrong with them medically. But then again my parents did not do so, they think ppl who take the easy way out will never amount to much in life. On hindsight I agree with them. For me at least I really got to mingle with people from all walks of life, away from my cushy life at home. Gained alot of experience and learnt some valuable lessons too.

U can start low but it does not mean u will not end up high. Just look at Creative Boss Sim Wong Hoo Wink Go enrich urself through part-time degree courses or pick up some diplomas instead of wallowing in self pity. Degree is also not a guarantee of a good job....u are going to need luck, vision, determination and GUTS to succeed.

U can have had a rough start but the wayers ahead are still up to you to chart and navigate....make the best of it. Instaed of lamenting on the fact that ur down and out, search for orportunities you can exploit to improve on your finiancial status or improve upon your job prospects.

There are plenty of nice gals in Singapore, u just have to look at the right places Wink

keuriseudo SG

Hi, u seem to be so troubled. I'm not very clear about what's going on in ur life. However, I hope u don't mind my comments on u according to what u wrote.

I don't feel that people are being treated unfairly in Singapore, although being treated unfairly can happen sometimes, but it's a matter of how you perceive the situations.

As for finance wise, I'm not very clear about ur circumstances so I'll just be very general about it. Firstly, don't just focus on ur problems and what u don't have. But rather ask urself "what can u do about it?" In the end, u will still have to deal with ur current situations and please, don't ever runaway from the problems cos they will always hunt u down and toment u again.

Again, It is important to have a good cert, degree or diploma. However, it is so not true that one cannot do anything or find a job just because of the qualification. There're some colleagues of mine in the past who were degree holders, and still lose their job and later, working in a factory as a quality assistant. Tiring job - 8 to 6 pm, and sitting there just to do samplings of wires and industrial equipments. The pay.. it's low. I just don't wanna say it out. And I've got a few friends who came out of ITE and doing good. They have a great job and a stable life.

It's not a matter of how high u go academically. But rather, how u manage ur time and how rersponsible r u with ur life. I believe that everyone of us has a potential inside us. It's just how willing we r to seek after it and share it wherever we go.

Lastly, about girls judging the local guys?? Hmm... if I'm a girl, I'll definitely WON'T reply to ur message. Hahaha...

But... since I'm a guy, then let me tell u something. If u think that girls will only go for guys who r highly educated, rich, famous, having a glib tongue and for being such a hunk, let me tell u, u r so WRONG! Although I will have to totally agree that about 0.000000000000001% of the girls around are that paranoid.

Here's a little secret: -
Girls are attracted to a few things:
1. Wealth
2. Status
3. Physical Appearance
4. Personality

Anyone who possess ANY of the four above will succeed... if u know what I mean... hehehe... Mr. Green

However, if u wanna work on ur personality, then I suggest that you work on ur body language and eye contacts. Girls will be watching out for these things at first sight. Wink

That's all for now... hehehe, hope u feel better now bro. Cheer up!!! Cool

yours truly,
K.R.S.D.

liyan SG

i personally dont think there is a huge difference la, but sometimes really want to lament how come i am not born in a rich family too.

say during school days, while we present our daily presentations with work printed out of our class printer, and can only print final presentations at printing shops (cost ard $200-$300 a time)... i've got classmates who are doing such printing during normal presentation days and do BETTER printing (like impossible sizes) during final presentations.

sure our lecturers will look at content, but presentation wise we lose big time lor.

then the same people have money to get the best digital camera to capture the best colours in our projs, or take 5rolls of film on manual cam to select 20 pieces.

i've got friends entire life no need to pay for bills, all extra money goes inside her bank acct. before she starts working she already have near to 10k in her bank. when we went taiwan together, her father paid for the air tics, then gave her 1k as converted to 20k taiwan dollars, and another 1k sgd to bring along "in case she needs to buy anything".

i borrowed 1.8k from my mother to go on this trip, never intended not to return to her, but she demanded the money back 3mths after i return from the trip, when i was neck-deep in my school projs. Twisted Evil

got another friend who has been to 20 over countries in her 20yrs of life. another who drives an expensive car (courtesy of her father) when she was 19.

dont really mind being poor, but can be richer la... hahahaha.

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