my sex life

Puremilk28 SG

hi aunty agony

i have been in a relationship with my bf for so long and going to get married soon in a few years time...........
my bf would always want to take teh first step to have sex with me..........however i feel reluctant cos i feels that i am like a prostitute,,,,,,,why do i feel this way....maybe it's that i always never ask for it....and he is always the one to raise the qn.............am i normal???

<sk> SG

I think that's perfectly fine not to have pre-martial sex. Just tell him that you want to save it for the day you are married to him! =P

sbst275 SG

Just tell him that you are not comfortable with that, I think he will understand that.

Devil1976 SG

Is he your 1st bf?

Nata|ie SG

Well, if you're not ready for sex, then don't do it. Having sex and making love is 2 different things. Girls tend to be more subtle is asking for sex, but more of them are getting bold these days.

Just don't do it for the sake of pleasing him. If you don't want it, tell him.

<sk> SG

The Devil is always so noisy... Mr. Green

Puremilk28 SG

no he is not the 1st

jOhO SG

no it's not normal to feel like you're a prostitute for your boyfriend. not that i'm trying to make u feel worse (or better, depends on how u look at it) but a prostitute gets paid.

ok anywayz, best to talk to him about it. i think it's just your insecurities and erm... frigidity. time to open up and talk about it.

of course if in the first place u NEVER wanted to make love/have sex with him well... then it's a bit too late now, yeah sure u can tell him no more from now till we're married, but that's a different story liow, go open a new thread.

good luck!

fymk SG

Tell him you prefer the guarantee of being married first . If he cannot wait , then he is not the right person. If he uses the " if you love me , you will do it " , you must use the "if You LOVE me , you will wait" excuse.

I had a friend who did it with her fiance and guess what? He dumped her soon after. So make sure you don't make the same mistake as she did

nOrmalbOi SG

Dun do anything ur not comfortable with to pls anyone.

Fuqua SG

So he want the milk NOW but only buy the cow in a few years time?
Tell him how u feel. Imagine the future wiv him. If u're not comfortable now, get out of the r/s before u have the issue of kids to deal wiv too.

Devil1976 SG

So many relationships have you had in the past? Anything intimate for the past relationships?

Gackt247 SG

If u dun feel like doing it.. den dun do it.. simple..