Need urgent advice from all..
Recently I held a conversation with my best friend. We chatted and
he confided in me something which left me in much thought. Till
now, I still don't know how to reply him..
His case:
He is in his mid 20s..his ex-gf, who was with him for many years,
left him last year. Most of the time, he confided to me that it was
his fault. Although they never got married, he ex-gf bore him a
son, a toddler. His ex doesnt want their son and moved abroard. He
was left with a child, and he felt so devastated then.
A few months later, he met a gal who knows about his past and a
child. They began a relationship. However, in the first few months
of this new relationship, he was still wounded by his past and was
emotional most of the time. In this case, he flared up quite often
and sometimes made his gf so nervous when he talked about suicide.
His gf told him that if he doesnt change, she cant carry on. That
was a wake-up call and he immediately changed for the better. Since
then, he has been the perfect bf who does everything that she likes
of him and made so much efforts just to make her happy. Both
emotionally and financially, he tries to make her happiest gf in
Singapore because he sticks to the belief that as long as he loves
her wholeheartedly, his conscience is clear..even if she chooses to
leave him one day. She told him that she appreciates his change and
was very happy.
Many months have passed when recently, his girlfriend suddenly told
him that she needs to re-think the relationship as it is gona face
with lots of obstacles from her parents that he has a son and her
fear of his past 'emotional talk on suicides' haunts her. She said
that if not for the change, she wouldnt have stuck with him for so
long. Once again, my best friend was devastated..that despite his
change, his past still haunts his gf..she told him that she is
going to leave him for a while..and think whether she is going to
continue this relationship..
I was very angry when I heard this. My best friend has loved her so
much, and I know the many efforts/sacrifices that he has made just
to make her happy. The thing is..how could she just suggest leaving
him alone once again despite him not making any mistakes? My best
friend even intended to spend all his year-end bonuses to give her
the most romantic and memorable Christmas day event. I was told
that she was not materialistic and very understanding to him and
his child. But to leave him at this time when he has done nothing
wrong, is really devastating to him.
I told him to give her up but he just love her too much and worried
that no other girls would love him again as he is with a child and
he is without looks. I told him that it's better to leave her
now..rather than after spending all the money and in the end, lose
both money and girl. But I am also worried that my advice may be
too one-sided.
Any advices to provide for my best friend is appreciated. 
