Are guys afraid of gossip?

icyprincess SG

what do I do with a guy who is so shy he will just clam up whenever there are people gossiping about us? I have no idea why he is so afraid of rumors. He used to spend with me and now he is avoiding me and when I asked him why, he hinted it is because people are talking. So I said...let them talk lor. Then he said cannot, must find a way to stop this gossip. I think people must have found out about our date the other day, and basically now everyone we know suddenly seem to know about us going out, even though it is only once. I dunno what to think about this. Grr

i.c.y

pie SG

try asking him why he needs to 'stop the gossip'?

maybe his parents are strict Very Happy

Patrik SG

Yeah..some guys are sensitive..
They cannot tahan pple toking abt him behind his back

icyprincess SG

his parents are not here. neither is mine Very Happy
he said he is scared. i asked him why. he just said he is sumone who is scared of a lot of things.

i.c.y

the Bear SG

to be brutally blunt... what's more important?

"gossip", or you?

icyprincess SG

i dunno why they are like that. I mean..let them talk la. Not like he is doing anything wrong. If you ignore these people, they will stop one day.

i.c.y

huiz SG

maybe he is not ready to annouce ur relationship.

icyprincess SG

i really have no idea now.
dats y i told him, fine if dun wan to meet nvm lor. i will go on wif my life as usual. after all i m used to not having anyone by my side.

i.c.y

icyprincess SG

i m not asking him to announce it. we are not even in a r/s yet. but isn't it cruel to just leave me hanging just because some people are talking abt us?

i.c.y

the Bear SG

i think he's not figured things out...

people WILL talk, not matter what one does...

i think he'll lead a life scared of everything and anything... real or imagined...

icyprincess SG

i think he doesn't know what he wants.
i shudn't care anymore.

i.c.y

pie SG

do you know why is he afraid of the gossip?

- scared that someone he knows will find out?
- feel embarrased?
- just feels uncomfortable?
- don't you have a bf or something..what if this person finds out?

i don't know him nor his side of the story but probably u want to talk
with him to find out. maybe he has experienced something similar in the past? some types of gossip can be damaging, even if u just ignore it

the Bear SG

2 things you can do... try to figure things out with him.. but on the surface, it seems like he doesn't want to face things...

the other, is like you said.. forget about it, forget about him...

icyprincess SG

i dunno why this is happening.
too many questions, all left unanswered.
i know i have done no wrong.
i dunno what he is avoiding...

i.c.y

the Bear SG

again, from surface, it would seem that he's going to be afraid of shadows....

i guess it's best to just forget about everything?

i wish you well.. i gotta go to work now...

just thinking aloud.. if i were there, i'd probably bash him Laughing

icyprincess SG

thanks Bear.
I do think he needs a good beating too.
He usually comments on my blog, and then today a stupid idiot went there and said something about 'scandal between us' and now he stopped going to my blog oledi.
Gah! I can't believe there are such coward!

i.c.y

shaunlaw SG

I think that guy needs to eat bear guts. I mean what is so scary abt being said by others. Who in this world hasnt been criticised or said by others b4?? What a coward he is. There is nth going on so whats there to be afraid of?? Mayb what people said are meant to be jokes, so is he goin to take things so seriously?? Weird guy.

ditzy SG

Are you kiddin'? They absolutely love it, just as long as they're not the topic. Laughing

SnowFlag SG

i dun think it shd be classified as gossip in the 1st place. Rolling Eyes

Cos it is normal that those who care abt u, ask abt these things. Razz

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BrUtUs SG

tink he is interested in other gals, so he afraid tis gossip might affect his chances...