A question

last SG · 2004-11-02T05:46:57+00:00

Cheering up is one thing. All my frenz can see that i am a happy-go-lucky kinda guy. But the saddest part is that no one can see the saddness in me. Haiz~~~~...

Haix SG

I noticed that most of the time in a r/s, the guy would normally be the one to initiate it. i was just wondering if the ger really likes the guy, would she confess her feelings to the guy or wait until he does?
and if she does wait but the guy still dun dare to initiate, wat would she do.

monkeybusiness SG

its not tat i am booasting or wat lah… but last time got 2 gals confess tat she likes me… dey will let u know their feelings one but maybe some are more shy loh…

shaunlaw SG

U are rite. Usually girls expect guys to initiate it. SOme daring girls will confess it but usually no. Most do not say out and just wait. When it doesnt happen, they let it go.

I just wana say, its aready the 21st century, wats the difference if a girl intiates or a guy initiates? Girls, if u like a guy and hes available, just go ahead and tell him. Same goes for guys too but i htink guys will have less of such a problem.

verloren SG

i was just wondering if the ger really likes the guy, would she confess her feelings to the guy or wait until he does?

some girls would...provided that they're daring enough/like the other party very very much. but most girls will prefer to keep quiet about it. why? because if they take the initiative all the time, it would make them seem like they are desperate for a man. when girls appear desperate, guys will avoid them and also look down on them. nobody likes a desperate girl, isn't it? except for the horny guys.

and if she does wait but the guy still dun dare to initiate, wat would she do.

a) wait somemore.

b) hint the guy.

c) find anoher guy.

Danisdead101times SG

girls will mostly try to do some action to show you that they have interest with you but mostly won't come over and tell you that she likes you...

SGpork SG

Crying or Very sad no gal like me

monkeybusiness SG

dun worry too much... just tat the rite one hasnt come yet... me too, oso no gals at the moment... as carefree as a bird Very Happy

pete98 SG

Any ideas what those actions might be? I am really dense about these things and after 2 past rejections I seems to become overcautious too.

Danisdead101times SG

ok...if a girl don't like you she will not even come out with you,if she is has interest with you,she will call or msg you everytime and she will be specially close to you...like for example...you two sharing a bench...she will not try to sit far away from you if she is interested in you...

pete98 SG

Ok
She does sms me quite often especially when I stop sms her for a day or two, she will then sms me to say she miss my sms. She seem to have told her sis about me. She did invited me to her temp home in Malaysia before(I was busy and I declined). She have sit and chat with me when I am having lunch alone. We did went out once and did nothing but just chat for 4 hours in a cafe. She said she willing to come out with me again. One of my female co-worker says that based on her woman six sense the lady seems to like me. I seriously think she really likes me.

monkeybusiness SG

good for u!! grab the chance! Mr. Green

SGpork SG

Razz

Haix SG

Dun think this is true. Coz i got to know this ger who sms me daily and is the one who asked me out first. But dunno y.....still got rejected. Guess this ger is abit different from the type of gers u met.

verloren SG

"guys don't want to be friends with girls, because all they want is LOVE."

that's what a female friend once told me. i think it's very true, right guys? Wink

i just hope you don't jump at conclusions too soon, to prevent any kind of embarassing situations from happening. better confirm with a few more of your female colleagues first!

101wish SG

Most gals wil wait for guys to initiate but i am exception leh..those guys tat i lik i dare to confess Cool

pete98 SG

I also don't want to jump to conclusion but confirming with her colleagues is going to be rather impossible, cos all they does is tease me about us being a couple. Majority of our colleagues knows I like her and have been teasing us whenever we are chatting with each other. Neither of us admit anything but I guess that is normal judging by the conditions.

pete98 SG

Ah I fallen for those type before which is why I am so careful about my current love interest. Some girls are just by nature overly friendly and unfortunately guys are experts in misinterpreting their friendliness as something else. Once bitten twice shy.

foxwalk SG

you only live once, so i say, "go for it!"

dun live to regret. i've been rejected before, i'm a girl, it's painful at first, ok, actally very painful. but u move one. i dun regret it. if sth like tt can destroy your friendship, then perhaps there was never much of a friendship anyway.
dun be one who when old, ponders over if he/she has done this and that, how would things be different.. jus do it!

Magnus SG

"girls just want to be friends, because all they want is affirmation"

Camellias4me SG

It has always been the guy who does the chasing.. to the point dat it seems only right for a man to do dat. When a gal takes on the role & initiates, she has to be open minded enuf to let go all inhibitions & prepare herself for rejection.. or worse.. being called names like "slart", "desperate", "err xin"?
haha.. but for guys of coz they won't mind la... more gals confess means more "pop" ma... For gals cannot.. we haf to maintain our image & value... very important!