How To Forget Your Ex
I promise that you will never read here a prayer to the circle of
life, nothing about what goes around, comes around, of things
working themselves out in the wash. However, I will quite
unequivocally and with a loud and clear voice repeatedly say; there
is hope.
Ive sat on the tube late at night being shuttled between the ends
of the line having no energy or motivation to find my station. Ive
woken in the morning to what seemed like an endless space next to
me, feeling that the universe has cracked into a million discordant
pieces. Ive seen some of my strong gorgeous friends fall into a
life lived with hurt and contempt. Ive sat in cafés and meetings
and hated the world for being so carefree, for having the cheek to
get on with life. And through all this sadness, hurt, confusion and
drama, there is hope. Life gets better. I got better, my friends
got better. And you will get better.
This is what you will read here, stories and thoughts from the
lives of my friends and I and how we got, are getting, better. I
hope you will find them of use. I hope that you will laugh at them,
the laugh of an accomplice who recognises their own folly in
others, how love makes us behave as though we were the unlucky
subjects in those tacky hypnosis shows. And of course know that
more than likely, were going to be like that again. Maybe, in
time?
For now though, don't be hurting. Well, at least don't focus on it.
Accept what's happened, if only because you can't change it. Take
some comfort that this experience gives you texture, puts iron and
compassion in your soul. As Billy Connolly would say, allows you to
be all windswept and interesting? at least for a while. Let it
give you knowledge and confidence in new situations, but don't let
it overshadow your whole life. That would be a much bigger tragedy
than whatever you've been through.
From our families fussing to our friends constantly trying to fix
us up, people view being single as a bad thing, as if it were a
state of being broken. Enjoy this attention as the comfort food
that it is and recognise it is done with love, but dont rely on
it, and dont believe it. Think about the power of one, that less
is more (you have to allow me some clichés). The freedom to live
your life on your terms. Think of something that youve always
wanted to do and do it. You have one less excuse now.
source: http://www.relationshipweb.com/links/Relationships/Breakups/