What does he mean ?

alien_04 SG

when he says he wants a cooling period for us to seperate for a while because he does not know what he wants and very confused about his life. He does not know what to do with me. He says he don't know when this
"confused" state will end and whether I'm willing to wait for him or not.

Sigh, I'm equally confused.

revvieeee SG

Go ahead let him off, give him a break. Let him do what he wants, just keep your mind open and pray that he comes back to you. If he does, good for you both. If he doesn't, you had it coming.

You can hold him back for a year, two years, maybe five years, but ten years? I dont think so.

Cheer up, hang out with your friends in the meantime.

mujiland SG

Sounds like an excuse to go and let things die off. Just let go and move on. I did the same. I moved on. Always the same excuses Mad

Always take things in your stride and remind yourself he has given you the opportunity to seek another better person to fit into your life! Mr. Green

MeoW_MeoW SG

are you those super glue type of gf? Rolling Eyes

SGpork SG

elephant brand super glue

verloren SG

leave him alone for awhile. he doesn't know what he wants [in life and in a relationship].

when he's done clearing his head, he will come back for you. if he doesn't, he probably thinks that things won't work out anymore.

put this matter at the back of your head for now, there's no use worrying over things that you can't control.

Ayla SG

Ya, let him be. If he’s meant to be yours, he’ll come back crawling to you…

Camellias4me SG

while he is still feeling confused... i would b quite sure i'm not... i can't feel or see in any way dat he wants mi at all. Y would i need to wait for him to figure his own heart out? He doesn't even noe wat he wans & wat can he gif? still selfishly expect u to hang on for him... & wat? wait for him to reject u at the end? tsk tsk.. tell him to go sort himself out as long as he wan to take... u've to focus on urself now... look at the many other eligible men ard u.. not worth getting urself upset gal.. u deserve some1 better... 1 who is very sure he WANTS & NEEDS u in his life.. now.. future.. & forever

Danisdead101times SG

oh oh...mostly guys will say this way is the end of the r/s already...
maybe you should wait for awhile and see what is he going to say again man...

Devil1976 SG

Not necessarily....?

Devil1976 SG

Really...? Rolling Eyes

browniebaobao SG

Men...

Devil1976 SG

Don't quite understand... What's the main issue here..? Just between you and him? Or does it involve other problems and hence aspects of his life....? Cause to me, it would sound very much like the latter...? If you don't know or ain't sure, try to find out more....?

How old are the both of you...? Currently occupations...?

Personally, I would like to think that he cares for you... Because he's giving you the freedom of choice in waiting for him or not... If he really don't care, he probably could have done 'better'....?

Devil1976 SG

How do you know the problem lies with men...? Smile Unless you're referring to 'men' as humans....? Cool

[email protected]_arms SG

*pardon my expressiON* he could just want to see more pussies/

alien_04 SG

Wow, u are very observant. Yes. we have underlying problems and my post
is not to blame him. I myself has commited a bigger mistake and regret over it. The biggest problem is he refuse to talk about our problem. He insists that he will call and talk about it when both of us are ready. I guess my only hope is to pray for his forgiveness and return. Or rather a miracle to happen.

Devil1976 SG

The 'issue' you're talking about... Is it the only main issue which have put your relationship into its current position...?

Both your age, star signs and occupations pls...?

How long have this 'talk about it when we're ready' thing been going on...? During the same period... Do you still see each other and go out as per normal...?

Hmm... The 'mistake' you've mentioned about... Care to tell us more about it...? Cool Or maybe can PM me if you think of it as quite a private thing...? Other than the thing you mentioned you've done... Has he done anything in return to upset you or things of such...?

alien_04 SG

It's too complicated and too long winded to write.
It's been nearly a yr since his request. Both of us are hurting and only time will tell and heal our wounds.

Just curious, does age, star signs and occupations matter ?

Devil1976 SG

Well... Maybe you're a total disbeliever... But it might help in a way...

Given the fact that little background of your situation is known.. The more information we get from you, the better it should be...?

What 'request'...?

Well... When you're ready to rant it out or type out a 'diary' sort of thing, do let me know...? Cause probably can't be helping much without any information...?

Meanwhile... Good luck and take care...? Cool

Camellias4me SG

Now dat u've revealed its actually over a mistake dat u've made.. seems like he's confused becoz he wants to forgive (mayb he already did) but as human beings.. we will never forget. He's not sure if he can really achieve dat as much as he would want to. Waiting for him to talk abt it when he's ready will take too long.. u muz show him dat u want to salvage the relationship. Make him face it. He wans to 'escape' from having to face the issue for as long as possible & dat will hang both of u neither here nor there. Get over the gloomy days.. u've apologised so try to make amends in watever way u feel like & return to ur usual self.. the 1 dat made him fell for. If he can't get let go... its best dat u remain frens.. move on back to life rather den having 2 person feeling miserable everyday. Wish u luck! =)

*paiseh.. abit lorsor.. =X