Once break up with gf, no longer frens ????

last SG · 2004-09-16T12:32:41+00:00

ya. find it quite hard to maintain friendship after breaking up

Saggice SG

Any1 share this exp ??

once u break up with ur gf, either u or ur partner insisted that u 2 cant be frens anymore and frm then on lost contact..... its kinda sad.....

but who and how many out there still able to maintain normal frenship.... its nt easy..... esp when the other partner intiated breakup and he/she still wan to be frens........

For me, i wld say stil be frens but it will be very weird and embarassed next time when we meet or watsoever...

icyprincess SG

haha yea read my thread..i have the same problem..only dat i m a girl and the guy who used to be my best fren, now become like a stranger oledi after i confessed my feelings to him..

want to regret oso too late oledi...

i.c.y

Fuqua SG

Depends if you are the dumpee or the one being dumped. Either way, it hurts. Best to avoid each other immediately after the breakup. No need to put the heart to more additional stress rite. BUT if you've completely healed, and if the ex want to remain friends, then fine. No need to hold grudges as well.

sleepycat SG

ya loh *nodnod* Cool

foxwalk SG

if u broke up cuz u don't feel the same love towards each other anymore. its easier to be friends than if one cheated on the other or something.. Rolling Eyes

101wish SG

it depends wat r the causes of breakup, if the reason like incompatible character , i mean it’s fine to be stil frds..however, if he/she betrays u, of coz u dun wan to contact at all rite..but even both of u claimed tat stil frds but how close wil tat be??? the r/s is not the same afterall

wd1 SG

my ex and i are still good friends. the unspoken understanding is just that we don’t talk abt the failed r/s…

lost1031 SG

i dunno coz i was kenna dump~
so i still have feelings for her, if she wanna be frens i'll be frens~
but she seem to avoid me, so i oso dun care liaoz .........

short story: after we break she say wanna be frens.....
so when i'm free i sms or call her, but she dun reply or said tt she's bz,
after few wk still unable to chat wif her even once so gif up liaoz~
she oso din call me~
juz say nicely can be frens lah, think she fall for another guy & dump me, so i oso hack care liaoz~ try to forget her.......

Fire Aries SG

I would say, it depends on how the relationship broke up in the first place.

Being friends with ex-gf is prefectly acceptable and fine with me, if the reason is not that of a betrayal.

Yunhaier SG

NOT taking account of personal birth chart: generally among the twelves signs -the easiest to maintain friendship after relationship would be:

I) Gemini
II) Virgo (Unless security is seriously threatened in certain ways - new relationship and bf hates ex - then maybe)
III) Sagittarius
IV) Pisces

P.S: Taurus/Scorpio most difficult to remain friends after they have moved on, but the initial stage to move is difficult for them.

Cheers

sleepycat SG

AGREED with hands & legs! Laughing

ahmike SG

Originally posted by Yunhaier:

[b]NOT taking account of personal birth chart: generally among the twelves signs -the easiest to maintain friendship after relationship would be:

I) Gemini
II) Virgo (Unless security is seriously threatened in certain ways - new relationship and bf hates ex - then maybe)
III) Sagittarius
IV) Pisces

P.S: Taurus/Scorpio most difficult to remain friends after they have moved on, but the initial stage to move is difficult for them.
Cheers[/b]

Wahhh super accurate.....my x-gf taurus...now break liow... i want to keep in touch also hard....everytime say busy or tired

yunzhongzi SG

Shocked

Yunhaier SG

Hahahahhahaha! You Virgo? Laughing

sleepycat SG

heh heh nope.. but mercury, venus & mars in virgo tho.. cheerzzz! Laughing

mercutioz SG

love, hatred, passion, vengence
the 4 states most ppl goes through in a failed relationship, whether u r the dumpster or dumped, at the end of the day. If u reflect on it, the most important thing is 2b happy, so if friendship is not possible, why forced the issue.

A Beautiful Mind SG

I tried but failed to remain frens/contact with any one of my ex.

One treated me like an enemy... wanted to pass her present on her bdae but she hanged up the fone on me. saw her a few times outside but always at a dist..

the other said can fren.. but always tell me nt free when i called her/sms her... Sad

I FEEL LIKE A FARKER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Kennerve SG

Don really agree with your PS.. Cause me a Scorpio.. Is still in contact with my ex.. And we are still chatting like normal.. We still talk abt r/s and such...

Its all in the mind.. Whether you wanna stay in contact a nt.. Of course, there are circumstances where the other person don wish to stay in contact cause they are hurt very badly..

But on average, why can't they stay as frens? U mean there is a "rule" that after break off, cannot be frens? think abt it this way.. before you are attached, you are frens.. donn let a failure in r/s break frenship.. Very Happy

Yunhaier SG

Woah, so you know the placing for your Planets. Wink

P.S: Sign of Virgo is a bad placing for Venus (Fall).

Cheers

Yunhaier SG

I already bold and underline - saying that I am NOT taking account of personal birth chart. (Which means I am not being specific to each unique individual. I am generalising among the twelve signs) Everyone is different - this is where you personal birth chart comes in and makes your different from other Scorpios.

Cheers