shud i go for counselling?

supercharger SG

Oh dear, you sound like you are under quite a bit of pressure. if the school counsellor is not any good, many of them are trained but not trained as well, then you may wish to seek outside assistance.

It is a sad state of affair that we have counsellors who cannot counsel Mad

still go and speak to the counsellor first and see whether he/she can help. if not, please post again and we will think of something for you Wink

icyprincess SG

yea i dun tink my frens wud know cos sumtimes i wander around in campus until very late one. no one cares where i go Sad

i m thinking of going tomorrow since i dun have class after 1pm. mebbe can get the later appointment one lor. but need to make the appointment early. and cannot let my roomie knows abt this. cos once she knows the whole wrold will know...

i.c.y

Estee SG

not all that went to Siao Lang Geng is Siao Lang ok?? some just have alot of problems…. and very stress…. they need a place to cool down…. to find some peace….... then they come out recharged…. it’s just how one look at things…. but well….. the world is like that lor…...

Match20 SG

haix...i got a gal i like....she also dun wan to listen to me...her parent also took her counsellin be4...dun seem to help...i think is simple...if u got the mindset to change urself...u dun need counsellor..

icyprincess SG

i need sumone to help me see things in a clearer way...cos now my mind is all cluttered...

i.c.y

FireIce SG

i think u can try taking up yoga

kops21 SG

I just went to Siao Lang Geng in the morning, the folks there looks normal today.

I can pass anyone the phone number to make an appointment if you are serious about attending.

Cool

FireIce SG

we oredi have a mole inside
doing recce for us

>point to X-men<

Estee SG

exercise is good....... when u exercise... the body produces Endorphins that makes u feel good about urself..... so start EXERCISING now..... Mr. Green

icyprincess SG

tis 3am now. i tink i shud go sleep instead of exercising hehe Mr. Green

i.c.y

kops21 SG

U can setup a forum on gyming and see who wanna join?

Or someone prefer to go jogging with me... It is very relaxing after a run..especially after long run, which allow longer time to reflect on matters... Cool

monkeybusiness SG

good idea Mr. Green

Estee SG

yah man.... u better go sleep now..... lack of sleep also bad for the body..... Wink

Estee SG

nah...... i see myself no UP to opening such a forum...... Wink

supercharger SG

I disagree with what match20 said. yes counselling is about having a mind set that says I need to change but just bec you are prepared to change doesnt mean that you know what to do or how to change your situation!

Everyone wants to be rich but not everyone knows how to go about getting rich. its the same thing.

So I agree with you that it is better that you seek some assistance to help you unblock some of the issues and clarify your thoughts. since you are asking about counselling, it is obvious that you recognised that somethings need to be done and that you are prepared to do it. this is a very HEALTHY mind and personality trait to have!! Razz

So please seek professional help and they will be able to direct you just that little bit better. yes, you can self direct in some situations but sometimes not.

kops21 SG

I'm sure you r capable. U will have my vote Wink

Cpl Ho SG

Cpl Ho, part time counsellor at your service.... Received a cert to be part-time counsellor after attending 3 days intensive course, so certified to be part-time only... Wink Confirm non-judgmental and confidential cos I dun know who u r at all... Wink

Seems to me you are placing your emotions on how ppl react to you. That's a very unstable thing to do cos ppl react differently everyday based on their emotions too... This will add to your anxiety because you have no control how ppl are gonna treat u... And uncertainty is a big source of stress...

Be confident of who u are! Icyprincess does not transform from an angel to a bitch suddenly just because ppl are not nice to u or dun care u for a day...

I dun know how to put this sensitively but you have to learn to b less self-centred! I suppose you are not disabled or handicapped in anyway that u badly need ppl to care for you... Instead of waiting for ppl to care for you, why dun you take the INITIATIVE to care for others first??

Love is a paradox... The more you want it, the more it will not come to you... BUT the more you give it to someone, the more it will fill your life... Wink

Put your emotions on how you treat others, not how others treat you, k?

If you think this helps, feel free to reply...
If you think this is HORSESHIT, well... at least I tried, and hey... I'm only part-time! And they dun give me opportunity to practice some more! Wink

Estee SG

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errrrrrr......... hahahahaa..... i'm feeling the stress man..... ;P

Cpl Ho SG

I'm sorry you have such bad experience with counsellors... Yes, the particular individual must be part-time to be so unprofessional... I sincere apology on behalf of the profession.... Embarassed

Cpl Ho SG

That's what I thought too... But after I went for a part-time counsellor course, I learnt to my surprise there is no such thing as 100% confidentiality... Let me explain why...

First, before a counselling session, the counsellor MUST tell the client there is NO promise of confidentiality and the client must accept before the session proceeds.

Confidentiality is maintained with respect to the SAFETY of the client, even though the client may hold it against the counsellor.

The counsellor cannot be with the client 24/7, so for cases where the client's or others' lives may be endangered, information CAN and MUST be revealed to the ppl involved...

Classic example, client is suicidal, so immediate family members must be informed in case client decides to ask family members for some sleeping pills and they give him/ her unwittingly...

Or client shares that she intends to take a chopper and kills her father who has abused her sexually since young, information must be divulged to the relevant authorities. Smile

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