i'm lost

paradox86 SG

guys,i confessed my feelings face to face to her. . i told her i'll wait for her after her exams but she said she doesn't lyke people to wait for her i duno y but she.. she treats me much more than a friend but still not strong enuff to be love.

She felt bad cuz i treated her too gd and she can't do the same thing to me. I told her i wasn't expecting much frm her, i just want to love her thts all. maybe after exams we could work things out..

she really felt bad tht i treat her too gd. She treated me very nice too but dun tink she koe herself. sigh, i'm really lost.

supercharger SG

Let it go. nothing can come out of this unless she wants it and there is nothing that you can do to make her love you more than just treating you as a friend. the more you press the more she will avoid you until the day will come where you will loose all communication with her.

Knowing your history from the other thread... (I hope I got the right one) its too short a time to have built any real meaningful and lasting bonds. further to have her under pressure like this from school work etc... she really needs to have her own time and space. she is not ready for you and if you try pushing your luck now you are likely to loose her.

dont wait for her... move on with your own life and dont compare with your peers esp in army when the weekend comes and your peers go out with gf and stuff, dont let these be the driving force in getting hitch... just live your own life now and move on. she will respect you for it and you will respect yourself better as well then to wallow and beg to be loved.

take care

paradox86 SG

sigh, i definately can't forget her thou.. she will still call me almost everyday except now her o's is really near.. so nt so much. she said she wants to know me better first.. so i told her yes sure.. i'm not telling you now for a relationship. i'm telling her i'll wait for her after her exams.. actually i didn't want to say at all but she keep asking me when i ask her do smth (forgotton what was it) "why shld i listen to you?" i just say u want or not is up to u.. and she pressurize me for an ans ... finally i told her cuz i love ya (this is the ans she wants) and now lidat.. i really dun understand.. today she called me and told me i might not treat ya as gd as u treat me .. she told me she'll try.. i say its ok im not expecting anything frm ya except loving ya with all i can. after exams we'll work things out..

The reason i tink why she can't commit to a relationship was due to her parents.. darn strict eh.. reach sch 15 mins late her mum call bak already.. reach sch must report to her.. very saddening lorz.. can't really go out and exams somemore around the corner.. worse..perhaps thts y she said she can't treat me as gd as i treat her. She told me to choose to be lyke now and bond the r/s frm here or keep a distance and start as friend.. she let me choose..

she is the who lead me on and now come lidat and sae dunwanna hurt me more and didn't reject me either.. dun get it.. she dunhave anyone in mind either.. im confused

paradox86 SG

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paradox86 SG

it's been 2 days since she last contact me.. i miss her manz Confused

"casting shame, crying rain, can we fly, do i stay, we could lose, we could fail, either way, option change, chances fade, train derails" -> anyone can tell me what this actually means ? for me i tink it's uncertainity Rolling Eyes

Kennerve SG

All I can advise you is be good frens with her.. nothing more.. nothing less.. you don wish to loose a fren like her do you? Sometimes, its better to be frens than be attached.. You don wanna go into a r/s and when things don work out, you 2 seperate and than things get worst and you can't even be frens with her and worst not able to call or ask her out?? Think abt it.. Wink

verloren SG

with so many signs, it's obvious that she wants to remain friends with you only.

you want to know why she's still going through so much hassle to keep in touch with you after you've declared your feelings for her? it's because YOU have something she wants. and she wants to keep you as a friend still, for that reason.

it could be something as simple as, 'you always make her laugh and cheer her up'. or 'you always give her your support when she's feeling down'.

if she loses you as a friend, then SHE WOULD HAVE NO ONE to cheer her up/ lend her a shoulder to lean on. plus, she can't guarantee that she would be able to find another person to replace you.

in that case, why would she try to kick you away? she would definitely try to make you stay by her side. which explains why she's telling you all the crap she's saying.

by the way, don't be too anxious about going into a r/s just because everyone has a gf... if everyone is jumping off the building, would you jump as well?

paradox86 SG

i really hope its the end as u had said but she said she definately wanna know me better first but after her O's.. gave me a date to contact her after her o's.. doesn't want me to contact her for time being .. tink she's confused of what she really wants.. so i rather not disturb her for the time being. she even told me she'll tink of going to piano lesson by herself .. usually i accompany her.. i didn't ask why dunwan me accompany.. dunwanna ask her so many questions till after her exams.. she's darn stressed up cuz her prelims kinda screwed.

she told she tink she'll be switching off her hp during her exams period of a mth.. so i got the hint of not msging her anymore . ..called her up using my fren's hp and dun really tink she off her hp.. she even answered the call.. i hung up. she still call me to tell how much she misses me.. meanwhile.. guess i shld really wait thn .. Rolling Eyes

Danisdead101times SG

hey dude...looks like you were in the same situation as me last time...but mine is abit different...the girl that i used to like have a bf already...she also felt bad when i treat her too good...hmm..now ive found myself someone who is better than her...so maybe you should just give up,there maybe someone better out there?

paradox86 SG

don't think i'll give this up easily cuz i knew her for 2 yrs but just really close abt 2 mths ago.. i'll try to tell myself to take things slowly... she's the one who lead me on .. so i definately want an ans frm her .. Rolling Eyes