Why did she look for me when she was sad and crying ?

december SG · 2004-10-12T22:12:19+00:00

cuz she was so traumatised by the experience that she forgot everyone else in her memory except the ugliest person, as he is the most unforgettable one

december SG

I am the first guy my ex think of whenever she was sad and crying after a quarrel with her bf. Why issit so ? Even if her best friend was beside her, she would call me first. When i asked her why whenever she sad she would call me, she just said dunno.

p|p| SG

maybe she feels dat u understands her the most... sometimes... if u r troubled n u look for someone who dun understand u... it will onli make the troubled person or sad person lagi worse.... coz they need someone to b standing on the same line as them den will they haf the WILL to go on... Mr. Green

jolin80 SG

i do agree wif pipi words i will also do the same if i'm yr ex ....
i will rather look for or turn to someone who understands mi more than someone who dont really understand mi at all the best part is that he/she may makes the whole things lagi worse

december SG

But when she called me, i asked her what happened. She wouldnt want to tell me at all. I must probe her till she confessed.
Or could she still like me ?

Magnus SG

Dun think too much.
She just need a friend that she confide in and will stand on her side.

ak0 SG

because she break up with u.. not u dump her

jolin80 SG

well as for mi (at the present) when i'm troubled or moody i wan someone t talk to but i wont tell my problem to my bf because i dun wanna him to suffer or worry for mi (i rather suffer alone myself) i wont confess to him anyhw wan loh maybe u all may say that i'm selfish but i do have my own reason behind

kaobeikaobu SG

To me she's attached and both of u are over.

dun read too much into it or entertain any thots tt she might still like u as it's dangerous.

You can continue to listen to her problems but if u really care abt her, u shld tell her that in order to let her bf to understand her , ultimately she still has to talk to him and to share their woes together. Likewise, her bf need to understand tt as well.
Wink

Kennerve SG

You may be looking into things too much.. When both of you are together, there may be many similarities that both of you share.. To her, she treats you as a very close fren, a confidedent..

Although she does not say what the problem is, all she wants is a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on when she is feeling down.. Just give that listening ear and hopefully she will tell you her problems..

The problem with girls and guys are they don't like to tell their bf/gf or even their closest fren their problems.. They like to keep it to themselves until they are been probe into or when they feel like telling.. She may feel that at that time for her to tell you the prob is not an appropriate time. Bear with her ya? Wink

Dante SG

I think you should put yourself in your bf's shoes. Sharing of problems in a relationship is very important, by not sharing your troubles etc, you could prevent communication. Give your bf a chance to understand what you are going through, learn to share things more openly.

By opening up the unknown areas about you to your bf, your bf could learn more about you.

Yunhaier SG

To confide, you have to be comfortable.

You are the comfortable range in her eyes - call who first, seriously doesn't matter much. (The only exception in your case, if your ex has always been having you as her form of emotional stability and dependancy. When she leave you, she doesn't want to lose this thread of support)

We are often someone's else support and assistance in times of crisis. Don't read too much into it - just be around if you wish to. Idea

Cheers

Ito_^ SG

maybe she is juz making use of u.

101wish SG

i hav heard ppl suddenly contact their ex when they got BGR problems..haiz..perhaps they tink their ex could understand them better..i dun c there’s a need unless both of u stil v.gd frds !

chunyong SG

mai tu liao, screw her 1st, ask later...got a phrase '"shoot" 1st, ask qns later', u never hear b4 meh ?

lution SG

Its a simple question.
Because you are her best girlfriend.

ditzy SG

Because you are the neutral umpire as of now. Very Happy

audlenelee SG

at least she has someone to turn to in times of troubles…

jeslin SG

haiyo~

hmm.. as a couple before, you shared lotsa stuff, including stuff she and her best friend never shared before. you were the closest to her for a period of time, and now you are friends, she will feel like you are soul mates lor.

anyway, a guy's opinions will be good at times.

fandango SG

i think she is too sticky. all seems fine now, but once you have a gf of your own, you better tell her not to come to you, if not there will be ….shake head

the.raven SG

cuz u are easy to bully