Can anyone help me? I have a problem and that is I just want to
forget..as well as to see what is the opinions of others. I really
do. Because of this problem, I cant concentrate on my studies and
in the end, I din even study for my exams! Now I can only hope to
pass. Anyway, here is what happen.
Recently, in June 2004 my mum rented out a room to 3 Malaysians - 2
males who are cousins and the third is the older cousin's mum. I am
currently 18 and they are 19 and 21 respectively.
After a month or so after they moved in, I hit it quite well with
the younger Malaysian guy the one who's 19. Soon, we were going out
together. Nevertheless, I soon fell for him. I have also no idea
why I liked him. At that time, since I did not know him so well, I
did not tell him. Pretty soon, he was asking me to accompany him to
buy handphone and he waited for me for over an hour to finish my
work. A week later, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I had my
reservations about it though I like him very much and told him no.
But he persisted and on the 3rd day I accepted. I was very happy as
he was very good towards me.
But one day, my world came crashing down when about 8 days after we
were together, I saw a message for him that was from his hometown.
I then found out that he had a girlfriend back home already. And
that, they had been together for close to 3 years already! But he
lied to me that He did not have a girlfriend from the start when he
moved in. Anyway, as I was very angry I confronted him. He then
said that it was nothing one. He is not very happy in that
relationship, and that he no longer had any feelings for her. He
asked me to give him some time when I demanded that sicne he did
not have any feelings for her to break it off but he did not want
to. My friends then told me to break it off with him.
But I did not. We went on like this for quite some time
quite
happily and told me not to think so much about the Malaysia side as
he really has no feelings for her and that he will no longer be
going back there already. But, my pride got in my way again and
This matter had then been weighing a lot on my mind and I broke up
with him on the day when we went out happily to take a photo. I
then told him I did not want to talk to him but he begged me to
still remain as his friend. At last, I agreed. This was one day
before national day.
On national day, I have tickets to the parade and I had also
promised my friend to go. He begged me to remain with him at home
as he will be alone at home but since I promised my friend, I did
not want to. He then said he will wait for me to come home. Over at
the stadium, I then received a message from him saying he likes me
very much and wants me to be his girlfriend. Again, I hold on to my
pride a I have very high pride and I told him no unless he broke up
with his girlfriend. I guess things started changing from that day.
When I got back home, I saw a note from him saying that he will not
be waiting up for me and that he had went to bed early.
The next day after national day, I then realised that I really
cannot dont have him and messaged him to be my boyfriend. But this
time, he told me he does not want to bluff me anymore and told me
that he still loves his girlfriend a lot and just asked me to be
his best friend. As I was quite sad, I accepted. The next day, I
smsed him again and this time he agreed to be my boyfriend on the
condition that if one day I was to break up with him, we would
still remain as friends. I agreed to that condition.
Things were back to normal and he went all out to make me happy.
And I was really very happy and contended during that period that
we were back together. But like what others always say, good times
never last and things changed again. His girlfriend initiated a
breakup with him. He then broke that news to me saying that he does
not know if to me, its a good thing or a bad thing. When he said
that, I knew now for sure my relationship with him would also soon
be over. This was on a Tuesday.
By Saturday time, he was really moody and he kept crying. When I
saw him like that, my heart ached for him and I decided to contact
his girlfriend for him. And got him to talk to his girlfriend. They
did not patched up. But on Sunday, he then told me he wants to cool
it off and temporary does not want to be in a relationship. He then
told me to wait for him. I agreed.
On thurs when all of them were off to work, I went into their room
and took back the note that I had written for him and kept it. Upon
discovering it missing, he then asked me about it. I bluff him and
told him I threw it away. He then asked me why. I said its no
longer important. He then proceed on to say that although its not
impt to me, it is very impt to him. As my mum was in the living
room at that time, we ended the conversation. When I told my
friends about this, they told me it was just sweet talk only.
Unknown to me, he suddenly went back to Malaysia without informing
me at all. Suddenly insecure and also angry, I just assumed that he
went back to find that girl. And so, I smsed him saying I will no
longer be waiting for him anymore. After sending that message I
wanted to retrieve it back but could not longer.
Things started to change for the worse from that day onwards. When
he came back from Malaysia on Monday, he moved back into his room
to sleep, and ignored me, not even talking or looking at me. I was
very hurt, very hurt.. but upon his good friend intervention (his
good friend scolded him), he was back on talking terms with me, but
still only a few words like hi
bye
anyway, this went on for the whole week and again on thurseday he
went over to his good friends house to stay. On Friday, I then
realised that his girlfriend had came over to Singapore looking for
him to patch things up with him. She called me many times and at
last, out of frustration, I gave her his good friends hp number.
And from there, she asked him out and on that day itself, they
patched up.
Things turned again after they patched up. And I only understand
why when his good friend explained to me. It was that he did not
want to patch up with that girl already, and that is why he went
over to his good friends house to stay not wanting her to find
him. And also that week he went back to Malaysia is because of some
family crisis and not because of her. When I heard that, I had many
regrets over the things that I had done and said to him. But his
good friend told me that she would help me in many ways she can
but things would still be different as they patched back on
conditions one.. and one of the condition is that he must not talk
to me nor his good friend.
Our friendship then went on like that.. on just a hi
bye basis.
Until just recently, his girlfriend found out about mine and his
relationship. As previously I had promised him I would not tell his
girlfriend about this, and so, I had not. But when they had a
quarrel, she brought this into their quarrel and told him that I
had told her when I had not. I found out about this from his good
friend. And when I confronted him with this, I told him I promised
you and so I did not say.. want to believe or not is up to you..
and he replied me.. I am not angry la. Dont talk so much ok. From
that reply, I knew that he had not belived me. I was very
angry.
His friend then told me it does not matter who say one. Now what is
important is that he is only waiting for November and that if his
girlfriend carry on being so suspiscious of him, he would break it
off with her. His friends advised me not to care so much about
their relationship and let them work it out on their own. His
friends said that if they were to break up, his girlfriend would
think that he had patch up with me, and that it was all not her
fault. From this I knew, I knew that even if they were to break up
he would not return to my side
From that day onwards, he was back on ignoring me. I was
bewildered. My friends told me that from right from the start, he
was just playing around with me
never serious. They told me it
could be that he sensed that I like him, and so had pursuit me..
what do you all think? Can love really vanish just like that? I had
just broke up with him for 2 months and it was not my wish.. can he
just dont care for me, dont even care about our friendship,
forget on what he made me promise him when we patch up together?
What do you all think? I want to chase him back but my friends
advise me against doing so, as it is obvious he does not like me
now
what do you think? Can someone give me some advise?
