Dear jolin80,
I do believe the pair is rather young?
Perhap maybe ard 21 to 25?
Maybe its due to the inablity of independence that force the pair
to stay w the in-laws?
Seriously i even doubt the sincerity of the love for the
marriage??
I feel that getting married in this case is to find a traditonal
way to be responsible for the baby. Sad but true, it however wont
solve the prob.
Getting married under such circumstances will often result in
premature ending of a marriage if its not handled properly.
Basically the pair will face a social stigma and financial crisis.
The frens and relatives will bound to ask you all unpleasent qns
and bound to make u all `lose face`, thus constituting to the
stress.. Financially, i feel that the guy may not be bringing
enough home.
I know your story comes from within the girl`s point of view.
but have you put yourself in his shoes?
I`m sure he`s also face w the same like of pressure as the
girl.
Imagine all the pressure the faces at work and worrying how he
should split his earnings to his family and to return home w a wife
full of probs?
To make any marriage a successful one,
IT TAKES TWO HANDS TO CLAP.
The wife and husband must accomodate each other and understnds each
other`s difficulty
Qurrels are comon in couple but everyday surely reflect some prob
tt`s left unsolved. Take sometime to think abt what`s the root of
the prob and slove it!
And yes, havin an abortion 4 times is surely a problem. The mother
will be affected both emotionally and physically. FYI, multiple
abortions may cause future miscarriages to happen. If u don want
the baby, take basic precautions!
If you all are really not happy together, then i may have assumed
that the love have already been gone. Then what`s the point to be
together even when u think DIVORCE is a BIG NONO?? You know you
won`t be happy.
You`re still young. Take sometime to think what you really want out
of your life w the husband. If you decide to keep on the marriage,
do something abt it before it detiorates to the state where a
DIVORCE is the ONLY solution. It takes 2 to keep a marriage goin
on. Work it out w the hubby calmly.
Best wishes,
BaByBoY
