Just want to share this with you and hopefully get some good
advices and guidances in return.
I may be overly suspicious, but to me, my worries and concerns are
valid. I feel that my wife may be UNFAITHFUL to me. Maybe not yet,
but on course.... Pls share your views. Thank you.
Briefly about us :
Married for abt 5 years and has a baby. Both working in MNCs. She
recently got a new job 2 months ago and I guess that's when
problems start.
Her team is made up of about 4 guys/2 gals. Whenever we talked abt
her work, she will mention the colleagues by name and I would
formed profiles of them in my head to have a better picture of the
person. However, I have always felt that one of the guy (let's call
him JOHN; who is also married with kid) has never really etched
into my profiling. I believe it is because she hardly talk abt this
guy. I just thought perhaps this guy wasn't a very active member of
the team and thus not much mention was given....
Over the last month, the team had extensive travelling which
requires them to be outstationed for the whole week and would only
return home over the weekends. I believe she spend more time with
the team then anything else during that period. Well, nothing wrong
with that I guess. Everything was normal and we talked everynite
when she is away. Everything aye ok.
Just last week, their travelling was suddenly stopped. I believe
the project was stalled due to unforseen circumstances. The team
had to stay in SIN office and make good for themselves. I believe
all of them have NOTHING TO DO. Most stayed at home. However, my
wife choose to go back to office on certain days, albeit with
another lady colleague (call her JANE). My wife says that the team
has been temporarily reassigned to assist JOHN who was temporarily
assigned to another project. I asked her more on the task at hand
and she just say nothing much to do.
Just last weekend, I say her busy smsing away. I thought nothing of
it as her SMS and HP calls picked up after she joined the company.
She could be smsing with her Boss or other colleagues. Later in the
nite, she informed me that she would be going into office on
Monday. I asked her why? She mentioned that JANE insist she
accompany her into office to "SHOW FACE". I thought, oh ok, since
she has nothing to do at hom e anyway.
Late into the nite when she was asleep, I did the unthinkable. I
saw her phone lying on the table. I just picked it up and ran thru
her sms messages. Her inbox messages were all deleted. However, I
can see that all the sent messages are still stored there. So I
read them. I can see JOHN's name appearing regularly and I was even
more excited and afraid as I scroll through them. I read the
messages that she just sent just before she told me about going
into office. I realise that she initiated the SMS to JOHN. Ask if
he will be going into office on Monday. Only after that message,
she SMS Jane and ask her if she would like to go to office to. Once
they confirm, she SMS back to JOHN on the timing. I was trembling
as I read.
As I read on, I came abt sms sent on Monday itself. She sms him and
ask him to join for breakfast. In the noon, she also ask him for
lunch. I remembered on Monday I fetch her in town and I ask her if
she was in office the whole day, she just briefly say that she did
leave the office but they went to another site office at the other
end of Singapore. When I pressed on and ask her why she need to go
there, she just say JANE wants to. But I had a strong feeling it
was JOHN who wanted to go there. My wife just tags along as she has
nothing to do. She just say JOHN drives them to and back after
that.
As I read on the sms, I noticed msgs sent by her during days of her
outstationed. Almost every morning, she would sms JOHN to meet at
hotel lobby before going to work. I did a quick count, JOHN was the
person she sent to abt 90% of the time and yet most of the time,
she would hardly talk abt this guy to me... **fishy**
I rememebered JOHN sms her before to remember to watch Sin IDOL
because that episode suppose to be very funny. I told her what kind
of colleague does that? She just kept quiet.
Now, I don't seriously think she has "betrayed" me yet. But I feel
that she is getting too comfortable with this guy. I believe the
project will resume soon and they will have to travel again. This
is what is worrying me. It may develop into something....
Some of you may be thinking that I over-react and that I should
have faith in my wife. Or some may say it's very common for
colleagues to behave this way. I understand where you are coming
from. But I just want to say that yes, the signals are not strong
yet. But any minute signal may develop into something bigger if
left uncheck. Especially when you are travelling and away from home
and feeling lonely. She even mentioned stories of infidelity
happening among other teams. And look at air steward/stewardess,
these are what's happening to these people. It's human
nature...
Question now is :
i. How do I allay these fears and worries ? I doubt confronting her
will work as to her, nothing has happened yet.
ii. How best can I monitor this... how to check on her HP more
discretely, etc.
I pray to GOD for your good advices and comments. Thank
you.
