Dear Duffy:
Actually I din wanted
to reply at all as this topic belongs to IcyBoi.
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Your first marriage
affects you tremendously and you know it. Like all other problems,
I see issues during your BGR relationship with your ex-husband
right into the day when you were proclaim man and woman during your
first marriage. There are bound to be things that wasn't made right
and your attitude towards love changed drastically with the fall of
your once love.
A came when you needed to fill some form of void within your
cracked emotional structure. He cannot commit and you as well - for
a mutual benefit, you two came together. Remember, its for
benefit and not for love. I understand the thingy behind
the pampering, yet you are not looking at his hefty cash.
Woman in their first love loved their lover, in all others,
they loved love. (Pai seh, forced to use this again
) You enter the
contract with the stated clauses, there is no way you could turn
the table and alter it. Ironically, when you are tired of a
relationship without commitment, you actually exercise subconscious
reaction of a gf to a bf's flippant behavior.
Your turning point came when B arrived into your life. Your drained
relationship eventually crave for some form of substantial
stability, in which B showed the following qualities. You fell for
him, not for the similiar reasons why you came together with A.
You showed terribly strong sign of delusion, probably the result of
your failed marriage.
And this sign is
demonstrated into the bonds between you and B. Remember Enron and
how it got busted? Deception in relationship, regardless of how
good intention you have, never fail the shatter and weaken bonds
between one another. A man in love is able to accept you for who
you are, but rarely, he is able to accept
conscious lies.
You wanna trust, yet you are working opposite of it. You want
commitment, but on the other hand, you can't give. If you were to
let your first marriage bring you down and let looming depression
and negativity ruin you - no man would be suitable for the
issue doesn't lies with them, it lies with WHOM you chose to
value-add into your love life. Think about it.
Cheers
