Is she really two timing me?

watdoido SG

I am currently reaching two months with my gf. I still love her and am willing to accept her for who she is even though we have a lot of differences. One thing about her is tat she is very weird.

When i talk to other girls she gets angry and all... but its alright for her to talk to other guys and recently i am now very angry. Exes should nev be mentioned or maybe only a little... She has this ex crush who lives opposite her condo... she recently used the website wholivesnearyou.com to locate him keep say want to talk to him.. She keep denying that she likes him ok den i trust her.. Then today he reply her then she very happy. I mean no matter how much i trust her she also cant treat me like that. Every time she nev meet him at bus stop den come to sch n tell me den say she feel sad.

In the afternoon i was on msn with her den i say i logging off... she also say so... But she like taking v long to rep... I suspect she talking to tat guy... Den an hour later i went online again den i saw her still online... So she had blufffed me tat she going offline.

She claims tat she need a lot of security cuz her parents still calling her stupid and all... juz why she need a lot of pple around her.. I dont like to say this but she purposely track this guy down claiming she juz wnt to make new friend. wat the hell she had a crush on him before... how i noe wat she thinking now?!

Am i juz being over sensitive or should i talk it out with her... maybe end the rel even though i still like her... Someone pls help me... ask me if u need to noe anything more to give me yr advice...

Ito_^ SG

tok to her la..

watdoido SG

I want to try to show her tat i trust her... wat else can i do before using tat as my last resort

kaobeikaobu SG

end the relationship.

watdoido SG

Can u like pls elaborate.. thx

sleepycat SG

self-esteem problem again ah...? she muz have forgotten that u need to feel secured too rite? or, u neber tell her?

but she sounds like she's so luan so how can u tok str8 to her? she may tell u she's not aware of wat she's doing loh..

hire a security guard & watch her 24/7? if no $... then end it if u can't stand it any longer. no point being together if there's no trust / joy.

nuchio SG

tell her

1. exactly how you feel - let her know you are aware of some things, things that dont tally or you dont understand her actions.

2. you dont want to suspect her of two-timing you and ask her to act responsibly and be honest with you.

3. you will trust her when she tells you what it is and if she lies to you, it will be the end of the relationship as there is no more trust. after that, do trust her or you will never be happy.

4. she is important to you, which is why you need to know where you stand in her heart.

most of all, be prepared for the worse. she maybe seeing him already. in that case, its best to put it all behind you. just let her go.

good luck!

kaobeikaobu SG

cuz no point. deep in ur heart, i believe u knw the answer but facing it takes time.
tok 2 her about how u feel (i mean everything......really everything)....
and to accept the decision to be made after....

Vampiress SG

u think too far… she may be just flirting with that guy and enjoying his attention.. it doesnt mean that she is two-timing you … just talk to her and be open with your feelings..

BaByBoY SG

Love is all about trust
If you love her, trust her

Of cuz you don juz blindly trust her,
U see, from your given post i can see that you`re in fac getting jealous of her neighbour that she have a crush on.

Communication is very important in any relationship.

If you have any doubts about her..
Talk to her
bring up the topic subtlely.
Dont sound as if you`re abt to take over her life..
Ask her of she`s happy with you currently and if she really have a crush still..

If she claims that she loves you, you should trust her..
But let her know her actions are highly disturbing you..
Tell her you`re getting jealous because of how much she mean to you..

But if after sometime, the situation just doesn`t get better, then maybe you should think twice again on commiting into this relationship. Give her sometime to forget her EX and crush, while assuring her of your love..

A fully satisfied woman can never be seduced by other people..

Good Luck to you my fren..

sleepycat SG

Originally posted by BaByBoY:
[b]A fully satisfied woman can never be seduced by other people..[b]

BBB.. not bad.. seems like u know abit abt A woman neh.. Wink

watdoido: if she's really flirting, think twice, thrice or more abt wasting your youth with her... chillzzzz Cool

BaByBoY SG

hehe
i copy from YUNHAIER one
this sentence is from her..
keke

watdoido SG

Is it natural for her to flirt around then?... She enjoys company so i accept tat... But i also need security... told her before she say will try but now still same... shouldigive her one more chance... cuz i feel if she really loves me then wont go around "flirting" liao or is it natural for girls of our generation?

kaobeikaobu SG

sorry babyboy....dun be offended...but i amended abit on wat u said...

A fully satisfied relationship(both man n woman) can never be seduced by other people

kaobeikaobu SG

i do understand how u feel..being insecure as well..

sorry, babyboy to change wat u said without u asking.

the reason i want u to tell her everything how u feel is u have ur needs as well. tts y i think both u n her have to be satisfied as well.

y everything?
1) communication is best when u bare ur deepest feelings.
2) u will have no regrets watever so, she will think for a while or long time..but
if she doesn't want this relationship. u can tell urself...u have bare ur deepest feelings to the girl u like n have no regrets later or in future..

take care and all the best watdoido

kopiosatu SG

both in singapore but use MSN chat? go out more lah…

sleepycat SG

NO NO NO NO NO!!!
girlz / women who're in TRUE LOVE, of watever generation, won't flirt around wan.. mai siu doh leh... mai find excuses for her leh...chillzzz chillzzz Wink

sleepycat SG

yea loh.. YUN is bery cool Cool

akino SG

if u trust her u wont post it here already..... trust is use ur feeling not by words. Talk it out with her. i think this is the best way. Wink

kopiosatu SG

WITHOUT using MSN Laughing