Now what?

mimi71 SG

He got me, my heart my body and soul Confused , he hurt me emotionally and physically Sad he then promised me with so many things but now he just dumped me away like a toy Crying or Very sad

We brokeup in pain recently, we never speak or smile when we met eye to eye, we never call and chat, it's just the disgusting look that i gave him by surprise when i bumped into him at the recreational centre Rolling Eyes

It's hard for us to be together because we're both married and committed to our own family matter Twisted Evil But why now he keep on calling me, when i answered he hang up suddenly Question

But why now he spied on me, i saw him there but i just don't bother and walk-off really. Why and what's the reason for him doing this to me In the first place he promised me so sweetly this and that, he said he wanted to marry me if i divorce my hubby, but now you see what's the point he called me again after i've changed my mobile no. Question What's the meaning of him waiting and spying on me at the MRT Exclamation

Is he trying to fool me again? it hurts love hurts, I thought it's for the best to change him when i'm gone but then ... just set me freeee... why can't he understand me?... guysss.. Mad

he's married really, we're both married... what's the use of getting along and patch up together?.. we might ended up hurting and create more trouble in the future... what's wrong wif him??.... what's wrong wif this married man i met one year ago??... he's crazy sicko bozzo wacko totally NO, No... !

Yunhaier SG

He made his decision, you made your decision - uphold them. If he is having any second thoughts, that's his problem to deal with, not you. He can do silly things like trying to confuse your heart and mind, but if you were to think about it, you are being affected by his spell because there are still opening in your heart that allow entry of his nonsense in. Don't let it shake your decision on leaving him and take control of your emotions.

It seemed that he has NOT only truely hurt you, but made quite an impact into your life as well. Promise or not, it doesn't matter. But you have grown and his presence caught your tail - if you have truely moved on, what he can attempt, doesn't matter at all.

Relationships made from dubious ground often die in similar fate. You already know what he is like, that should serve to reinforce your stand. You are minding because you have not got used. Sure, you wouldn't be able to forget - learn to adapt and blend with past emotions to accelerate your forward moving. Idea

P.S: Learn to think more about the future than to habour about the past.

Cheers

nuchio SG

after what he has done to you, do you want him back? if not, tell him to get the f*^@ out of your life. continue telling him till he stops hounding you.

try reverse psychology if you cannot get rid of him. tell him that you care and love him very much but you feel guilty as to how you treated your husband and would like to make amends. meanwhile you will continue to love him while you both are apart... blah...blah... blah... you get the drift...

OR say that you dont deserve him because you are a bad woman and you can never be faithful to him like what you did for your husband etc... just to get rid of him. remember to sound sad....

jOhO SG

goodness me, it just gets better here in AA...

all i can say is if u wanna play the game, be prepared for the consequences.

it doesn't matter that the female is USUALLY more susceptible to hurt and pain than the male. and of course, there's only the female side of the story here.

to cut long story short, maybe u can just simplify it by taking it as two pple falling out of love with each other, for watever reasons (even if the reason is becos they are both married to OTHER pple).

Yunhaier SG

Technically speaking, I wouldn't encourage the 'Cancer/Scorpio/Pisces Style' - to emphasize on self pity to delude one to leave. Unless you have strong grasp of your emotions and is able to lead control - by doing so, she would have no end of him around like a stalking ghost, mentally and spiritually.

Of course, the most important issue is NOT that - its when you succumb to your own method and unconsciously placed a foot into the past. Misery is promised. Idea

Cheers

Devil1976 SG

You're right. The suggestion has a certain amount of vulnerable 'loop holes'.

Fluffy.white.sheeP SG

uphold your choice and don't dwell on the past.
it's him who is having second thoughts about the choices both of u made
don't let his actions compromise your decision u've made in the first place.

mimi71 SG

Laughing He's crazy going NUTZ but not me, i've done my part and believe me he really called my office this morning twice so crazy of him really. He can't get hold of me because i've just changed my handphone no. lately Mr. Green

I've never thought of looking back Evil or Very Mad i've always been strong, walk straight and move on, i know love hurts but i am getting used to it now and then, i know my love will heals as time passes by i know that. I will still miss him and everything but too bad he's not what i want in life, i guess he wants me for "flesh and sex pleasure" for sure.

My first time love wif a married man, i pray to God that this will be the final and the END Surprised