Originally posted by gur:
Would you still haf feelings for your Ex especially if both of u
were together for 5 around years. After the breakoff both of you
still kept in contact (like via sms and phone calls every 2 weeks
or so)
How would u feel if she tells u that she's getting married (after 5
mths breakoff)? Then she kept sms u good night on and off? Or tells
you she missed you terribly? And she also ask u to do stuffz for
her (like fixing computer and stuff)? While all this you are just
being together with a new GF of around 3-4mths.
Will you lie and tell your new GF dat you have completely no
feelings all for your Ex? Despite the fact your new GF knows all
about the above (phone calls and gd nite sms) and you did try very
to dissuade your Ex to rethink about marriage since you had
accidentally sms wrongly your new GF while trying to sms to
dissuade your Ex in the process?
I think you would more or less guessed that I'm the "New GF" in
this scenerio. I got together with him in late April although I haf
known him as a friend for about a year. But I felt it was too hasty
when I knew that he just broke off with his Ex in early March! and
she was the one who initated the breakup.
Even though he kept saying that he only kept in contact with his Ex
via sms and phone calls and would not meet her up, later I found
out (when I checked his hp infront of him after wanting some
concrete assurance that he has nothing to hide) that he actually
wanted to meet her up to settle some stuffz with her even though he
had repeatedly insisted that he didnt and wouldn't meet up with her
a few days before. I was hurt and very angry...and felt used since
I felt he's looking for a rebounce relationship and wasn't being
very honest with me. He tried to assure me by allowing me to check
his HP whenever I wish but WTF, he would clear all her msg from her
if he knows that I am checking anyway. In addition, whenever I
asked if either his Ex or he had initated any contact recently , he
would repeatedly deny.
To top it all off, he finally admitted last month that he was VERY
affected by the news of the breakup but again tried to assure me
that it was in the past (in May).
Which means he still have feelings for her while we are
together...which speak volumns of why he doesn't really wanna chat
or acknowledge with me whenever I try to contact him in the initial
stage of our RS even though he did try to be physically intimate
with me (hugs, kisses) when we were going out that time...
I am still upset over the fact that I couldn't get any emotional
support from him during that period even though he is working on it
now after I voiced my unhappiness over why he had been so concerned
about his Ex's emotional upport while he doesn't seem to bother
about mine. Do you know that he only 'erm, errr..hum' thoughout the
phone conversion and didn't bother to say my name or say hi, bye
when I called him twice in the initial stage of our RS?! At 1st I
was wondering why he act so funny that way...since any BF would be
absolutely thrilled if their New GF called right?! Then I don't
bother to call him at all....and it still make me sore and unhappy
to know that he just learnt that his Ex was getting married and was
UPSET when I called him the second time.
To make it worse, and to add to my insecurity, he and his Ex had
SEX on their 1st date! Although he claimed that they both kinda of
knew each other for around 3 years...and she was the one who made
the 1st move (what a whore
and f***ing slut! she is a primary school teacher yet bedded so
many guys!)
All these revelations make me very unhappy whenever I think of all
these things. I realised that they affected me greatly since i
would wonder and ponder over little things...like why whenever we
took photos together, he will be very proper and only put his hands
around me while he would KISS his Ex. And that he would rant how
expensive and 'wu liao' the Neo prints whenever we passed by one
but he still keep those faded stupid Neo prints of him KISSING his
Ex. Thinking of this, I really regreted to have done 'it' with
him.
Sorry if my post doesn't make sense. I really need a place to rant
it all out before I go crazy by the hurt I am experiencing.
Although he treats me well...but I find myself unhappy. Am I too
stuck over the past to move on this RS?
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primary school teacher also need sex ma
