Am i selfish? bochup? heartless? antiS? private? person

last SG · 2004-08-30T00:26:46+00:00

Actually I just wanted to +1 my post only. Afterall, its astro mode. When I off it, then its gone. Cheers

angkt_eric SG

My greetings to everyone!

I have this problem. I just hate to meet friends and new people for gatherings. They just seem boring. The same go eat, chat, watch a movie, play pool, play frag games. Okay, watching a movie is nice, the movie that is, but all the socialising and mixing makes me so bored. I don't like to listen to their story of the day, i don't like to laugh at their "jokes", i just don't care about anything but to do my own things. I don't care to make an impressions, guys or girls. I just don't care. Okay, i care to get the work done, the important things must do, will have my action.

I have to make clear, i am still a good friend who will aid my kaki in any problems, but all this non important inconsequential things i don't care!!

Is this a sickness?? Confused

Axelheat755 SG

if u hate to meet new ppl , how do u get friends.. if u have no friends, how do u justify what u said "i am still a good friend who will aid my kaki in any problems" ???? Rolling Eyes

u self contradicting urself sia...

angkt_eric SG

I have friends from work, uni and army. I hate going out with people and their stupid fun!!! I am so passionless, no fire. I just want to finish my responsibilities and dig a hole!
Social circle is small as you get older. I feel better.

martin_lim85 SG

i use to have a friend like that too, but no more friend friend with him liao coz a lot think him very proud of himself

angkt_eric SG

I am not proud! I am very humble in fact! I think i have people phobia! I am not scared. I just do not enjoy it!

I have to admit, i hear gossip about me as proud! Why they not understand, this is not proud, is just not the right feeling! Why must society look upon my kind as weird outkast???

huiz SG

i can understand ur case coz my character is rather similar to urs. i like to hav my own space n quietness hence i dun hav many frens ard. but each time we meet n tok, i will treat it as an info-sharing session. i learn more abt other ppl’s lives n experiences n it widens my exposure too.

Yunhaier SG

Eventually, you will come and understand that no man is an island.

Are you a Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn or Scorpio?

Cheers

huiz SG

i am a taurus....how does tat affect me?

bismarck SG

i am virgo and i fall into the cat. this guy mentioned

parn SG

It is not a sickness at all. It is just a simple character/personality issue. Open up your heart to the people around you, you got nothing to lose. Socialising is a skill that simply cannot be picked up overnight, but it is something that you are missing in your character/personality. I'm not asking you to be a fake person and pretend to mix around with people around you. Instead, if you are able to prove to people that you can charm them with your character/personality for just one time...then you can go ahead and say that they are boring. If you are unable to do that, then I have to tell you that the fault lies within yourself and you are simply a boring person to mix around with.

It is easy to take step back and accuse everybody of being boring, but are you sure that you are not the person who is boring out everybody in the first place? Take up the challenge to add effective socialising into your character/personality...it is afterall a life skill which will greatly benefit your social life and future career. Smile

Good luck.

gerrykoh SG

Mixing with people is a very important skill to learn cos will benefit u esp. in work/ school. How to get people to work with you/ help you depends on relationship that is why many people network & socialise with customers. U might not like it but it is necessary. Just learn to enjoy it.

kaobeikaobu SG

dun worry, i also same as you.
dun be bothered by what ppl say

Ito_^ SG

people used to gossip me about that too. it doesn't really matters really, but you have to understand who are important to you in life. all people are selfish to certain extend, but just as people are bad, they are just as good.

if you can't be concerned to everyone, at least be to those important to you. its not that you are the above, its just that you fear the above so if you avoid these issues, they will not occur on you.

whichever, just live on lor. thats the only thing we can truely do anyways.

Devil1976 SG

Kinda AGREE with this to a certain extent...?

Devil1976 SG

You sounds like me of the past...

Estee SG

i have abit of all those symptoms in me… hahaha…..

bo liao SG

Er..pardon me for saying this....If u find u got friends tat make u dun wan to go out wid them,,,mayb u mixing wid wrong friends or groups tat dun click ba...

Either is mayb ur expection is very high or they simply quite jia lat... Laughing
Must hv sence of humour...talk more rubbish lor...(That's me..so as to breck any ice & keep laughter in a group,lik tat den wun boring mah..sometime hv to sacrifise abit lah..)

But Personnonally,u ppl dun chiong issit?if u got a group of friends tat always go pubs, disco,ktvs,movies,chalets,drive around...it wil make u better lor, or u gotta find some ppl wid the same intrerest wid you ...

Gd Luck...Sure Can Find One, Dun Gv Up,Life's Short, Play Hard,Enjoy!! Very Happy

101wish SG

socialising is very impt esp comes to working life..although having ur own space is not wrong but gg out wif frds r fun..unless u dun regard them as ur frds…frds r able to help u over “crisis”, they giv support to make u live on..however if u dun lik big groups of ppl, u can jus keep a few close frds..thk over it, man !!!

blurtoad SG

angkt_eric , you r not alone. Wink

I am a virgo and have the same characters as mentioned by u. Consider myself a loner with a few close friends.

I do not like to go out with a big grp or join any grp gathering. When I am required to go n attend any grp gathering, i will stick to those whom I am close with and wouldn't mix ard. people phobia? I dunno abt it. And I dun like to mix with pple of the opposite sex... but i not a homo or les.

People may make remarks like i am proud or selfish or boring or whatever. but as long as I aware that I am not tat kind of person, I dun give a [email protected] to wat they said.

Sort of get use to it liao, wan to change also quite difficult. So I usually stay at home facing the computer most of the time, other than working n going for lessons.

Think the personality n character of a person is an inborn thing, can improve or get worst thru influences over time.

blowfish SG

you not alone..