Originally posted by BLIM:
Hi Everyone,
I have a problem lately that I can't solved! I think I'm in love
but mine is consider secret love. I like a girl and been thinking
about her. Lately, I went out with her as she need someone to
accompany her to shop for a pair of sandals as hers has already
gave way. While walking with her, my heart beat beats very fast.
Before i left for home, I said goodbye to her. The feeling is very
unbearable. I really wanted to accompany her longer but scared that
she will feel embarrassed.
She has a bf and there's some problems with him lately. She will
talk to me about these problems. I will advise her to have a good
talk and see other alternatives to solve their problems. But on the
other hand, I really wanted to tell her that I like her very much!
But somehow dun have the courage to do so. Been asking myself
whether should I go after her or should I give her up since she
already has a bf.
Pls advise! Thanks! [b][/b]
You had a crush on her no though, but do you
happen to realise that you are feeding false hope towards your
situation because it seemed that she had a rough period with her bf
and it may apparantly 'place' you in 'better' position? And to make
matter worst; moral clashes with emotions - You
don't want step into the picture, yet you can't help it.
To reveal your feelings now would be the worst of all time -
regardless of intention. You will be fueling additional burden onto
her emotional baggage and she would probably avoid or keep a
temporary distance if she feels invaded and need that personal
space.
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Let her walk through this phrase first. Then later, you can
consider your option of expressing your inner feelings. However,
after that declaration, if your overall intention is to become her
bf, then the timing need to be revised again. If your objective is
merely to blast out your feelings and release that tension, then go
ahead. 
Cheers
