Am I shallow?

last SG · 2004-08-05T10:12:12+00:00

So guys are so obsessed with the girls they like; they even kiss the soil the girls step on.

painkilla SG

Hello all. I post this thread to seek your help. I wish that you give me an honest reply.

See, I like(or love or however you describe this feeling) this girl from my friend's (girl's classmate) school. She is pretty popular in her campus. I have only seen her once. She does not know me or seen me before.

From what I heard, she has a boyfriend. My friend(her classmate) is in her study group and he felt like helping me meet her.

Here is the wierd part. Am I crazy or delusional to have such feelings for someone I barely even know? Or am I obsessed? I am confused right now and I seek the help from you all.

Thanks,
painkilla

ditzy SG

You are not shallow duh! You have a crush. So sweet.

joker105 SG

since she has a bf…. then 4get loh… try others…

painkilla SG

I have heard, whether is it true or not. The girl that i like( or love or however you describe it), is having problems with her relationship. The boyfriend apparently is 2-timing on her.

I am not sure. I have not fallen in love with anyone(or like or however you would use to describe). Is this feeling a bit too crazy?

RaTtY81 SG

well its not crazy, its perfectly normal.

painkilla SG

Thanks for your honest replies. Since I have no knowledge in stuff like these, would you all give some suggestions to approach a task(or whatever you wish to describe this) like this? I really want this to work. Not that I am a selfish bastard or anything.

Thanks,
painkilla

RaTtY81 SG

wat task???

painkilla SG

On my first post, my friend offered to give me chances to meet her(since they are on the same study group). I was wondering how would I approach her. I am sort of a loser when it comes to such things. Would really want help from you all.

Thanks,
painkilla

M©+square SG

reminds me of japanese love manga.

Anyway, its not exactly prefectly normal.

painkilla SG

Hey mac, could you give me some advice? Since you read something which was pretty relevant to my topic.

Thanks,
painkilla

Imperfect SG

Just be yourself... no need to purposely impress her by being someone you are not...

painkilla SG

Thanks for posting. It was meaningful for me. Anymore suggestions anyone?

M©+square SG

Why i've said it's not exactly normal because.
Guy tends to look for their ideal/fantasied partner as first selection process.
What ain't normal is when we watched too much dramas and mangas and love novels. It creates a simulation within our minds which we thought we could live like what was told in the stories.

REmember.
Love Movies - Is all about two hours and that's it.
Love dramas - At most fifty episodes...
Love Novel - The love takes One book
Love Manga - As above

Your Love story? It takes everything in your life to build one.

Your scenario my guess is that you're a worshipper from afar.
Let's see how you'll progress rather then watching and admiring from afar.
Fantasy does not equate to Reality. Though it's sweet and nice to do what is in dramas and stuff. But fruitfulness doesn't come this way, it only gives excitment and rush.

I'll be back.

Cheers

painkilla SG

Books are a good way of showing and protraying past experiences I understand. They give you a certain fantasy-like feeling to the context. Although there are many different ways of approaching this situation, I believe there is an ideal way of going about this. Else I would not be writing anymore about this topic and get back with my life but knowing that I still have a weight over my shoulder.

Thanks for the advice you gave.

painkilla

RaTtY81 SG

sometimes fate plays a part too…

taipeiy SG

Painkilla, you takes this too seriously. Learn to relax just be yourself, girls will not fall in love right away with you.You sounded like she will fall in love right away with you.

All woman requires times to understand a person before they would fall for a guy. Unlike for guys by looking into a girls which falls into the catagories of choice in beauty, immediate the boys would proclaimed that he is in love.... so learn to relax first. Start by making friend and learn more about each other characters. From here you will be surprise that you will also get to learn about yourself too. Getting to know more people within or beyond your circle of friends is always a good thing. Good luck anyway!

fandango SG

just forget it.

parn SG

She already has a bf, so don't be a selfish bastard. I will not encourage you anyway and...did you register your nick just to ask this question? Rolling Eyes

BrUtUs SG

forget her la, shes jz a crush, theres better available gals arnd…

Mahattan SG

One word.

Infatuation.